Growing in and through becoming an overcomer part 2

“Power from on high to overcome” – sketch by Laurie-Ann Zachar Copple, 1989 (c)

My name is Laurie-Ann, and I’m a missionary. During my mission travels, I have ministered with people in Northern Ireland, Pakistan, Canada and the USA.  I’ve also ministered in African countries like Kenya, Ghana, Sierra Leone, Mozambique, South Africa, Botswana and Namibia. But at this time, we live in the beautiful Western Cape of South Africa.

During my last article, we looked at opportunities for growth through overcoming obstacles like our own old sinful nature, and how we grow through adversity.  We looked at Paul the apostle as an example, although Old Testament heroes like Joseph and Job received more than their share of adversity.  But they overcame and not just survived.  They thrived.  We also looked at the promises for overcomers in the seven churches in the Book of Revelation.  Since then, we’ve been given an opportunity to put the overcomer lessons to good use.  We had a lesson in this even before the covid pandemic hit.  Our car broke down while trying to get to a friend’s wedding.  We were towed home, and ever since, we were stuck at home with no transport and no way to fix the car for eight days.   We could only choose each of these eight days to turn this situation over to God and make it an opportunity to overcome. Let’s learn more about how we can become overcomers.

Dudley Rutherford believes we can learn to overcome life’s obstacles through the story of the battle of Jericho.  Some of these principles can be applied to any area of difficulty.  The first principle is focus on God, rather than your circumstances.  You’ve been looking too closely at your problem. It may seem huge because you’re looking at it too closely.  Or, it may actually be something that is life-threatening.   However, if we focus on God’s power rather than the size of the problem, it will seem to shrink.  When you can trust God to help you overcome it, the problem can be surmounted one step at a time with God’s help.  God is much larger than any obstacle we will ever face. When we focus on God’s greatness and faithfulness, you can begin to see the problem from the right perspective. God knows every detail of what we face, and he is right here along with us. So, choose to see your obstacle as an opportunity to cultivate your character. Increase your faith while you trust God to lead you through the process of overcoming it. [Dudley Rutherford’s new book Walls Fall Down: 7 Steps from the Battle of Jericho to Overcome Any Challenge (Thomas Nelson, 2014).]

The second principle is to trust in God’s plan even when it doesn’t make any sense.  God’s plan for your life may seem strange, unconventional and mysterious from your own limited, human perspective.  We only see one part of the picture; one piece of the puzzle at a time.  When you decide to trust God and his plan, you can count on God to fulfill his promises to you.  He will use whatever you are going through – even your toughest challenges – to accomplish good purposes.  While the well-known Romans 8:28 verse is certainly relevant, instead, let’s think of how the ancient Hebrews thought of marching around the walls of Jericho singing and then blowing shofars.  It didn’t make sense. But often God’s ways don’t.  He often does things differently from how we attempt to do them.  While he uses conventional means to get things done, he is creative and likes to do things ‘out of the box.’  It’s so we can say, “Hey!  God did this!”   So don’t try to solve your problems only in your limited strength.   As God reveals his plan to you, follow it day by day.  Be willing to say “yes” to whatever God asks you to do – even when it doesn’t make sense.  If you do, you’ll make real progress overcoming your challenges.  

Principle Three is to see supernatural grace in all situations and pursue holiness. Sometimes these are big “But God” moments, but many times they are smaller kindnesses of God.  Ask Holy Spirit to help you recognize the extraordinary ways that God works to break through the ordinary situations in your life.  Don’t miss God in the ordinary moments.  He is there.  Choose holiness and integrity in your everyday decisions.  You will become stronger and better able to overcome difficulties. Place your relationship with God at the centre of your life. Invite God to empower you as you practise spiritual disciplines like prayer, reading the Bible, and worshipping regularly both alone and in church groups like connect groups and larger Sunday gatherings.  Approach your life each day with faithfulness and zeal to discover and fulfill the purposes God has for you. Be confident that God is with you every step of your journey. 

Principle Four is to surround you with other believers who want the same goal. Other Christians who are honest and work to overcome their own challenges can help lift up your spirit. At times when you feel low, they can remind you of the truth, and cheer you on toward achieving your goal. Choose to be in a culture of people committed to what really matters eternally. Help each other set aside sin and disagreements. Instead, unite as pure people set apart for the plans God has for them.  In Iris, we call these “laid down lovers,” because they set aside agendas for what God wants instead. Rather than pride, they choose to go as Heidi Baker says, “low and slow.”  

Principle Five is to keep putting one step in front of the other consistently to make progress.   Take every day as a challenge and test in a good way.  Some people conquer mountains.  We don’t have to go that far, but we can choose to take whatever steps the Holy Spirit leads you to take.  Don’t compare your progress with others or get frustrated that every detail isn’t perfect.  Our timing is not God’s. Be patient and persevere through each step.  And while you’re there, find the joy in the moment.  

Also ask Holy Spirit to help you avoid becoming distracted.  That’s a big one for me.  Sometimes other things get in the way, or I become discouraged and feel like quitting.  But Heidi always reminded us in Harvest School never to give up.  She said, “if you don’t give up, you win.”  So try and keep small, consistent faithful steps towards victory.  You will get there.   I recently read the book Overcomer, which is based on the movie of the same name. The book features a girl named Hannah, who was shown at the beginning of the story to be a near-orphaned girl, who hardly saw her grandmother.  She was always working.  Hannah was a cross-country runner with asthma.  Every time she tried to run, she would be hit with asthma, a certain bully, and her own fears of not making it. She also was a chronic but guilt-ridden thief. By the end of the book, through faith in Jesus, encouragement from her newly-found but sick dad, her coach and new friends, she learned endurance. Through endurance and keeping a regular schedule in running for endurance, she became more and more an overcomer.  How?  Part of it was in learning endurance. Yet, it was important to have a coach who believed in her.   One of the book’s characters says, “Having a coach who believes [in you] is simply gold. For a runner, when you hit the wall, and in every race you will, you think you can’t run another step. You reach out and grab on to someone else’s hope, someone else’s belief. That can propel you in ways you’d never imagine. That’s the kind of hope you need to have and give your team.”  P 147 [Alex Kendrick/Stephen Kendrick, Chris Fabry, Overcomer, Tyndale House Publishers, 2019]

Finally, she was coached through the state championship cross-country race through listening to one audio file on a tiny MP3 player.  It was her father’s voice coaching her through all the sections of the race.  This was something that was arranged between her coach and dad. These were two men who greatly believed in her.  They helped get Hannah ready for a race over many weeks.  The author shares after the big win, “Hannah burst into tears and leaned back in Amy’s arms.  They were tears of joy, tears of victory. The emotion seemed the culmination of everything she had been through, the loneliness and fear, the hurdle of asthma, the guilt over things she had done.  The girl who had been abandoned and had had great loss, who ran alone with no team. She overcame it all listening to her father’s voice.”  P 345. P [Alex Kendrick/Stephen Kendrick, Chris Fabry, Overcomer, Tyndale House Publishers, 2019]  She also didn’t give up because she was focused on direction from her father’s voice.  This reminds me of Jesus, who was always listening and then doing what the Father was doing.  He was encouraged through the Holy Spirit.  We can also listen to OUR Father’s voice propelling us on.   It’s the same for the great cloud of witnesses in scripture.  They are like cheerleaders.  We can’t hear them unless we have a revelation, but they do cheer us on.  It’s our turn to run the race for Jesus.  And he will help us run it well, if we let him help us do so, step by step.

Principle Six is to usher in blessings by obeying God’s instructions every step of the way.  This is about diligence and obedience. Just like Hannah’s consistent running, we need to be faithful with every step. When we obey God in small ways, he leads us to greater levels of faith and responsibility.  Then we grow and can have victory over the next challenges that come.  This may be doing something that’s difficult, but right.  For Hannah, she repented from stealing and gave back everything that she stole with sincere apologies.  For us, it could be apologizing to someone whom you hurt, forgiving someone who hurt you, changing to a different job or beginning to tithe to your local church. When you do, blessings will come from the obedience.  

Principle Seven is to prepare for a season of joy. Even during difficult times we can have joy, but when you’ve overcome these hurdles, you can do the victory dance!  Then you’ll also be stronger for life’s other challenges.

Megan Bailey also shares strategies of overcoming obstacles.  Number one is to replace fear with God’s love. Often obstacles we face are full of different fears. If we can replace these fears with God’s love, we can focus through prayer, meditation and daily devotions. For example, after a bad breakup, you can focus on God’s love for you and that he is with you.  You are not abandoned.  [paraphrase, Megan Bailey, https://www.beliefnet.com/faiths/christianity/7-strategies-to-overcome-obstacles-with-god.aspx

Number two is to focus on God’s power.  “No matter how big your problem may feel, or impossible it may seem, […] we know that nothing is too difficult for God to handle.” Jeremiah 32:27 says, “I am the Lord, the God of all;  Is anything too hard for me?” Instead of focusing on how big the problem is,  look up at God.  He is much more powerful than any obstacle you will face.  This helps you shift your perspective to remind you that you are in God’s hands.  Just think of the children’s song “Great big God.”  God is bigger than the universe, deeper than the ocean, higher than the highest mountain.  Yet he will help YOU.   

Number three is to trust in God’s plan for you.  It can be frustrating at first to give up control of your life.  But you never really were in control anyway. We need fully to believe that God is in control and has a plan.  That plan may seem confusing, and even mysterious, especially if you can’t see much of it, other than the impossible piece you are looking at.  But you can always count on God to support you.  Be willing to say yes to that plan and the one who holds the key.     

Number four is to remember who you are.  You have a God-given identity. You are a child of God. The enemy of our souls does not want you to realize this in our heart of hearts. Don’t be afraid to stand up the obstacles and say, ‘God is here with me. I can overcome this through him.  This will not dampen my faith nor take me away from knowing him.’  Now, breathe.  You’re building faith as you stand.  

Number five is to surround yourself with other Christians.  Don’t do life alone. Don’t get isolated.  Spend time at church, and in small groups together.  Have people pray over you and with you. You aren’t alone. My Anglican pastor always tells his congregation that you cannot live the Christian life alone. It takes your community.  You are stronger together, and grow together.  They can pray, advise and cheer you on.  They can also speak life-giving words to you when you least expect it.   

Number six is to read the Bible.  The Word is incredibly powerful. It holds the key to many of our problems.  Listen to Hebrews 4:12:  “His word is alive and powerful, sharper than a two-edged sword, able to pierce to the division of soul and spirit, of joints and marrow, and even able to judge the thoughts and the intentions of the heart.”  There are also many examples of how God helped others overcome. One such person was Sarah, who couldn’t conceive.  In God’s time, she gave birth to Isaac, one of the great patriarchs.  

Number seven is to pray often.  Prayer is the way to communicate one-on-one with God.  Then we are never alone.  We can pour out our pain onto him.  He listens, and as we hear from him, our trust in him grows.  There is no right way to pray, just begin to speak with God, as with a special trusted friend.  Write down your requests and see how they are answered over time.  You’ll be surprised how many are answered! 

Pastor Gary Stump has his own overcomer list. [Pastor Gary Stump, Onward Church, pastoral letter February 23, 2019, https://onwardchurch.org/2019/02/23/7-steps-to-become-an-overcomer/ Number one: Start over new.  It doesn’t matter how many times you’ve been defeated. Don’t look back.   You’ll not experience victory going over the past again and again. The Apostle Paul said in Philippians 3:13: “one thing I do, [I] forget those things which are behind and reach forward to those things which are ahead.”  While you can learn from your mistakes, getting stuck in them is not beneficial.  Press forward.    

Number two: Decide to make a change.  To truly overcome, you must be serious and committed.  You can’t give a half-hearted effort.  Remember this verse from Proverbs 16:3: “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.”  To fulfil this commitment you must be specific in your goal so you can overcome, identify triggers and temptations, create a boundary of protection when tempted, and get others to help and encourage you.  

Number three: Hide God’s Word in your heart.  Memorize scriptures.  Sing them, put them on paper and paste them around the house. Read them over and over until they become part of you.  Psalm 119:11 talks about the power of the Word to restrain you from sin. “I have hidden your word in my heart,  that I might not sin against you.”  Specific scriptures will come to mind just when you need them. Meditating on scripture also helps renew your mind by re-programming it, in a good way.  

Number four: Use the power of the Holy Spirit. We often can’t solve problems on our own.  We need the power of the Holy Spirit.  When we give him control, he gives us the peace, joy and other spiritual fruit that come as a by-product. Also everything seems a lot more fun! 

Number five: Overcome one day at a time.  My counselling professor Brian Cunnington often told us that fear often tries to take over when we try to do too much.  It looks like too much because it IS.  Break down the tasks to day by day, little by little.  He called this “chunking it down.”  I call it making the tasks bite-sized.   Jesus reminded us not to worry about tomorrow, or the next task in Matthew 6:34. “Don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.”  Stay focused on having victory for TODAY. Don’t think too far into the future.  I am a visionary and sometimes get glimpses of something God has for me a year or two in the future.  I find this exciting rather than scary, but then there are the pesky details.  I might ask “How, Lord?”   when I don’t have all the info on hand.  Back in 2014, I was given an impression I would be teaching African children about art.  I got excited, and said, “OK” without knowing the details.  I would have no idea that I would be offered a position at MasterPeace Academy teaching art.  I’ve done this for two years now.  Did I know that then?  No.  Sometimes you just need to trust and not worry, since we don’t have all the puzzle pieces yet.   

Number sixBegin a winning streak.  Write down your little victories in your prayer journal.  There will be a time when you can soon say, “By God’s help, I really AM overcoming!”  The Apostle Paul said in Philippians 3:14:   “I press on toward the goal, for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” 

Number seven: Celebrate your victory!  Don’t forget to give God thanks for the victory you’re experiencing.  Paul says through 1 Corinthians 15:57, “But thanks to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.”  Thanksgiving for the victory will also be an encouragement to you on your journey.   

Our last source of overcoming strength comes from Shawn Shoemaker.  His strategy to overcome is through worship, relationship with God, respecting and loving the Bible, and getting priorities straight.  Worship is essential to lay a  groundwork of building something new – it dedicates your life over to him yet again. It reminds you of who he really is.  He is Lord, and he is faithful.  But in this case, Shoemaker learns from the example of Job.  When everything was taken away from him, he didn’t complain.  He worshipped God! Listen to Job 1:21  He said, “I came naked from my mother’s womb, and I will be naked when I leave. The Lord gave me what I had, and the Lord has taken it away.  Praise the name of the Lord!    “Job had a made up mind that He would not allow his circumstances to dictate his worship. This is the first characteristic of an overcomer.”  [Shawn Shoemaker “4 Characteristics of an Overcomer” March 2015 https://www.apostoliclife.org/4-characteristics-of-an-overcomer/]

You must also have a relationship with God and a revelation of who he is. Job shared in Job 19:25: “But as for me, I know that my Redeemer lives, and he will stand upon the earth at last.”  Job trusted God, and knew who he was. He knew God would overcome. He may even have had a revelation of Jesus Christ.  You must also respect and love God’s word (the Bible). Job 23:12 says, “I have not departed from his commands, but have treasured his words more than daily food.”  Jesus also treasured the Bible’s words more than food when he was tempted by the devil in Matthew 4.   We must also have right priorities.  Job was generous with the poor, fed those who were hungry, clothed those who needed clothes.  He didn’t put his hope in gold, or rejoice in his wealth.  He rejoiced in God and shared his wealth while he had it.  And when he lost it, he remembered that he still had God.  And in time, all was not only restored, but more was returned.  Job overcame.  Job had endurance and great patience as he trusted the Lord.  And he was not let down, because the Lord is faithful.

I pray that we will overcome through all these principles we have learned. We will win the victory through focusing on God rather than circumstances, remembering his power and love for us, trusting him even though it doesn’t make sense, keep going consistently and being obedient to current instruction.  Also we are to worship, replace fear with love, prepare for a season of joy, remember who you are in Christ, pray often, read and memorize scripture, recognize and rely on the Holy Spirit’s power, begin a winning streak (and take notes on God’s victories) and get your priorities straight.  These are trustworthy instructions. All of these are Biblical and I pray they speak into your lives as they continue to do into mine.

Lord Jesus, thank you that you are a master overcomer.  You overcame all for us.  We cannot imagine how hard that was, but you did this willingly.  We love you.  Please help us on our own journey to overcome.  Thank you that you journey with us along the way.  You don’t forget us in a single moment.  Please give your peace and strength to those who are listening.  In Jesus’ name, Amen.

If you’d like to hear an audio version of this article, please visit the Ways to Grow in God (WTGIG) podcast page on the coppleswesterncape.ca website (under the “Listen” drop-down menu).  Click here:  (https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/wtgig-podcasts.html) and scroll down to #67!  If you have been blessed by this article, please let us know!

Updates:  For those looking for news on my cancer journey, I was declared chemically cancer free as of February 2021, but still in post-cancer treatments (lymphedema massage, physio, medications, scans and bloodwork).  Just this month, I had a follow-up mammogram, ultrasounds and x-rays. The radiology doctor told me that I still look as if I’m cancer-free!

Otherwise, I still owe credit card debt for some of the medical work and we are working towards that with art commissions and donations. God’s peace is something that I’m clinging to as we plan our way back to Canada.  At the moment, our passports are still in the hands of Home Affairs, so that we have an extension on our medical visas.  We would like to return in September 2021, after preparations to return with the help of a very capable Cape Town travel agent.  Gone are the days when we would plan our own travel online (apart from booking self-catering places).  Both of us have had our first covid jab, and wait the second one.  (Although it is the right thing for us to have the jab, we don’t impose that on those who refuse it out of conscience). 

After our quarantine, we plan to stay with and care for my frail 92 year old dad.  Part of us longs for Canada, but we still greatly love South Africa.  We are glad that Jesus is carrying us, since we are frail.  Both of us have continuing health issues, including prostate cancer, eye issues (following Tony’s retina re-attachment surgery). We are seeing if these can in fact wait until our return to Canada, or if Tony’s eye surgery will have to be done in Cape Town.  It would be R90,000 (or $8,000) done in Cape Town.  We aren’t sure if how much it would cost in Canada (if done there). 

Thanks for coming alongside us on our journey.  Being an overcomer is truly a process. We still need help. Tony has significant medical bills as well for TB, eye surgery, the urologist (who is monitoring the prostate cancer), and I have debt as well. Please click here for the medical campaign page to get more info: https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/medical-campaign.html.  We are still crowdfunding to cover the post cancer treatments and Tony’s eye operations. If you feel led to contribute, please do so via our PayPal:  https://www.paypal.me/WaystogrowinGod   If you do, please introduce yourself and say that you read “Ways to Grow in God.”  It would really bless us!  If you’re led to pray instead, we welcome your prayers and please do contact us.

L-A’s colouring book:  If you are in South Africa, and would like to purchase one of L-A’s colouring books, they are available at OliveTree Bookshop in Mountain Mill Shopping Centre (near Pick n Pay), Worcester, Western Cape.  You can also buy them at LeRoux and Fourie Wineshop on R60 beside Cape Lime (between Nuy and Robertson).  Or you can order one (or more) printed for you through Takealot.com through this link:

https://www.takealot.com/colouring-with-jesus/PLID68586424

The Colouring with Jesus 2 is about to be printed!!!  They will be available online, through us personally (for a short time), and through the above shops.  They will also be available through Legacy Relay run by Louis and Carica Fourie.  After we return to Canada, we plan to republish the devotional colouring books into English-French.  Bless you and thank you for your support!

Love, Laurie-Ann

 
 

Growing in and through becoming an overcomer part 1

“Rest and Receive” – part of Colouring with Jesus 2. This was drawn at CapeGate Oncology, Brackenfell, Western Cape, South Africa.

Tony and I are Canadian missionaries in South Africa.  We have learned through our African friends in different countries how to slow down and be relational.  This is something all of us in fast-paced countries need to learn.  So come along with me and we’ll learn together on the adventures of Growing in God.

My name is Laurie-Ann, and I’m a missionary. During my mission travels, I have ministered with people in Northern Ireland, Pakistan, Canada and the USA.  I’ve also ministered in African countries like Kenya, Ghana, Sierra Leone, Mozambique, South Africa, Botswana and Namibia. But at this time, we live in the beautiful Western Cape of South Africa.

During my last article, we journeyed through growing in God’s peace.  We learned about the importance of peace keeping and diffusing difficult situations and conflict resolution for God’s glory.  We also learned that peace isn’t just the cessation of hostilities.  It’s something supernatural that comes from God himself.  Deep peace is something you would have in a storm of life, and yet you are grounded in well-being that can’t be easily explained. It’s like Jesus is carrying you and you know it will be okay.  Just as Holy Spirit strengthens us with courage, he also fills us with deep peace.  This helps us to be still, and listen to his voice.  After all, we aren’t the ones in control; God is. We can choose to be at peace and trust God.

Overcoming is connected with courage and the deep peace we have been discovering.  My Canadian Iris supervisor Janis has been encouraging us in our missionary journey since August 2017.  So far that’s almost four years. Before I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I battled nasty Hidradenitis Superitiva.  It’s an inflammatory disease that involves skin, infected hair follicles and sweat glands.  It is painful and ugly.  It reminded me of Job’s boils. And it’s something that the inflammatory breast cancer hid under for weeks.  Both are sneaky diseases.  One of my oncologists believes the two are connected.  Yet through the HS journey, and then cancer, Janis told me, “you are one remarkable overcomer L-A!  I’m praying with you.”  She became my cheerleader through persevering through a difficult week.   Each season of our lives has different lessons.  Through our mission work, I learned to just love, trust and be fearless.  Through the HS, I learned perseverance. Through the cancer, I’ve learned courage, trust and overcoming.  So we’ll journey through what overcoming means.  Pastor Shawn Shoemaker says that, “An Overcomer is someone who prevails.” [Shawn Shoemaker  https://www.apostoliclife.org/4-characteristics-of-an-overcomer/].   We’ll discover later exactly what he means.  But I believe that an overcomer also runs the race of whatever life brings – difficulties, challenges AND joys – with perseverance.  The Apostle Paul told his spiritual son Timothy in 2 Timothy 4:7: “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful.” We are encouraged by Paul’s journey through suffering massive adversity in the mission field, Joseph in an Egyptian prison, and even Job, who endured direct and indirect suffering, and yet he praised God, trusted God, and never cursed him.  How did they manage to persevere?

There are overcoming promises in the Bible, especially in the Book of Revelation. The other overcomer scriptures to the seven churches in Revelation involve perseverance as well.  Revelation 2:10 showed the Smyrnan overcomers were to win the crown of life if they were faithful until death.   Revelation 2:17 shares about the promise to the Pergamum church:  “To him who overcomes, to him I will give some of the hidden manna, and I will give him a white stone, and a new name written on the stone which no one knows but he who receives it.”  To the Thyatiran church, there was much honour and authority given to those who withstood awful teachings and manipulation.  It’s too heavy to share here but I certainly couldn’t have endured that.  To Sardis, the dead church, Jesus commanded them to wake up in Revelation 3:5: “He who overcomes will thus be clothed in white garments; and I will not erase his name from the book of life, and I will confess his name before My Father and before His angels.”  To the Philadelphia church, who endured testing with perseverance, Jesus promised in Revelation 3:12 something special.  He said, “They who overcome, I will make them a pillar in the temple of My God, and they will not go out from it anymore; and I will write on them the name of My God, and the name of the city of My God, the new Jerusalem, which comes down out of heaven from My God, and My new name.”  This is an amazing reward if we do not give up.  Here is the last of the seven churches, Laodicea. This is the church that became so lukewarm that they didn’t realize their spiritual condition was dire.  But after repenting, and being restored to deep intimacy with Jesus, here is the promise in Revelation 3:21.   “He who overcomes, I will grant to him to sit down with Me on My throne, as I also overcame and sat down with My Father on His throne.”  This requires not only perseverance but deep humility.  

[Forerunner Commentary, https://www.bibletools.org/index.cfm/fuseaction/Topical.show/RTD/cgg/ID/1411/Overcoming.htm] Revelation 2:7 gives the promise that “to him who overcomes I will give to eat from the tree of life, with is in the midst of the paradise of God.”  In other Bible versions, overcomer is translated as winner, one who has victory, and the like.  Yet overcomer seems a stronger word that depicts a long, difficult but worthy journey.  The Christian life is not an easy one.  While some preach prosperity, that is incomplete. They forget the suffering.  They forget the maturing, and growing deeper, so the storms of life won’t shake us. We may lose everything, but we still have Jesus.  This promise was written to the Ephesian church but it still speaks to us.  Have we lost our first love? For many in the persecuted church, Jesus is enough.  They still overcome without all the fancy luxuries. They have kept their first love vibrantly alive.  Revelation 22:4 also shares that “Blessed are those who do His commandments, that they may have the right to the tree of life, and may enter through the gates into [New Jerusalem].”  Forerunner Commentary notes that the “The Tree of Life is associated with a way of life — one that requires overcoming. This growth is against a standard of righteousness. It includes keeping (doing) God’s commandments. The only ones who are allowed to partake of the Tree of Life are those who have changed themselves (with God’s help, by His Spirit) to begin living in the same manner as He does. To those who submit to His standard of righteousness, then, He grants life that is both endless and of the same quality that He enjoys.” 

[Forerunner Commentary, https://www.bibletools.org/index.cfm/fuseaction/Topical.show/RTD/cgg/ID/1411/Overcoming.htm]

Let’s hear how we can overcome our old sin nature, so we can clothe ourselves in that humility, and new nature.   Vinita Hampton shares that “we like to identify God with a day that goes well, and speak of God’s presence in terms of blessings… There is some truth to this, but such perceptions of God greatly limit our capacity to recognize God’s holy presence every day.”  [God Is in the Overcoming by Vinita Hampton Wright,  https://www.loyolapress.com/our-catholic-faith/ignatian-spirituality/finding-god-in-all-things/god-is-in-the-overcoming]

More often than not, God is in the overcoming, the action we take in order to navigate the constant difficulties of life. When we solve a problem, face the truth, wrestle with a decision, suffer through illness, wait for help, learn to pray, lend a hand, or admit our doubt—these are the situations in which holy energy is powerfully at work. God’s love is not static; it moves and acts within our real circumstances. Holy life is not some pretty scene to admire; God is in the doing, in the living, and the growing.”  Know that God’s love pulses through your struggle. Think on this.  The grace of God walks right along with you.

Overcoming also is part of our journey to spiritual maturity.  Some of this is in growing wiser, and setting aside harmful things.  This includes many of our old ways of thinking and doing things before we came to faith in Jesus.  Our coping styles in life are often formed in difficult situations.  We did the best we could, but now we can have better.  Instead of imperfect and sinful ways, we can have healthy, life-giving ways.  It’s a divine exchange that’s part of salvation.  We are being made better and better as part of our journey.

I looked through some extensive writing in the United Church of God manual on spiritual maturity.  It interpreted overcoming as coming into maturity, or some would say perfection.  It said, “God expects His true followers to grow, mature and bear fruit. What kind of fruit does God expect?  How do we produce it?  This goes beyond the basics of our faith.  Hebrews 6:1 states, “Therefore, leaving the discussion of the elementary principles of Christ, let us go on to perfection.”

Correctly understanding the scriptural truth that the Holy Spirit is God’s power that can transform our lives and helps us better understand His purpose and will for us.”  [Growing in Spiritual Maturity, https://www.ucg.org/bible-study-tools/booklets/transforming-your-life-the-process-of-conversion/growing-to-spiritual]

This manual goes on to say, in many different ways, that we need to grow in our understanding of the Bible, and yet, we also need the transformation of the Holy Spirit.  Thankfully, we are not alone in this. Vinita Hampton Wright shared that God is with us in the overcoming.  That is a promise.  He does not leave us and he gives us the grace to keep going.  We do need to stir up the gift of the Holy Spirit in us.  2 Timothy 1:6 encourages us to do this. Then we can be renewed and empowered for the successful fight against sin in our lives.  We cannot fight it in our own strength.  Even Paul acknowledged that at times, he did what he hated.  We need not only to put off our old self, and our old way of thinking.  We must build into our character the positive traits that are the opposite of our flaws.  We must as Ephesians 4:24 says, put on our new self, the godly behaviour we now desire to practice.  Paul shares with us that he never attained perfection in his efforts to eliminate sin from his life. But he gives us this perspective in Philippians 3:13-14: “I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” So, we fill ourselves with more grace to overcome.  “The simplest way to remove the air from a cup is by filling it with water. Likewise God can overcome our human nature by filling our minds with His nature and its many wonderful attributes.” [Growing – UCB] 2 Peter 1:5-8 tells us: “Make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love. If you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.”  So this is about overcoming our old ways of seeing, acting and living. That’s important for holiness and living right. 

What about challenges that come that aren’t from us?

I’ve found quite a few takes on this. One of them is to look at the adversity that’s been allowed in our lives.  It may be difficult for us, but God can still use it for his purposes.

The Apostle James shared in James 1:2-4: “Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.  Paul expressed a similar perspective in Romans 5. He gloried in tribulations and saw the fruit of it, since he kept his eyes on Jesus and lived by the power of the Holy Spirit.  “These men understood that in light of what Christ did for us by providing salvationthe difficulties we experience in this life take on new meaning. They are a means through which God works to accomplish His will in our lives: to shape us so that we reflect the character of Christ. On the basis of this purpose, all adversity “works together” for our good and God’s glory.  Just read Romans 8:28, and you’ll see what I mean. Adversity also gets our attention. When it comes, we are forced to face problems and pressures that are too big for us to resolve. In this way, God gets our attention. We can’t continue to pursue our goals, tasks, and relationships in the same way. We have to stop and evaluate our situation. We need to ask God for wisdom, obey His Word, and trust Him to bring the help we need. Troubles point out our weaknesses. They prompt us to rely on God in ways that we wouldn’t unless we had significant needs. Christ’s invitation to those who are weary becomes very attractive in the midst of trials. Listen to Jesus words in Matthew 11:28-30.  Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”  Therefore, adversity is a classroom in which we can learn more of Christ and become more like Him.

Adversity also reminds us of our weaknesses. The Apostle Paul dealt with this in his thorn in the flesh problem.  That’s when Holy Spirit brings even more grace, despite the affliction.  Paul depended on sufficient grace.  Then he was able to say in 2 Corinthians 12:10:  “That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” Adversity motivates us to cry out to God.  The Psalms give many examples of crying out to God in prayer.  Psalm 34 verse 7 shares that “The Lord hears his people when they call to him for help. He rescues them from all their troubles.”  Adversity also aids us to become matureAdversity motivates us to fear the Lord, and even strengthens our hatred for sin (as in realizing what we reap, we sow). Adversity is evidence of spiritual warfare against us – just read Ephesians 6:10-17.  And finally, adversity is God’s method of purifying our faith.  While our own mistakes work against us, other forces have been allowed to buffet us.  The cancer in my breast is not from God.  Still, the circumstances are purifying Tony and me as we navigate the cancer journey together with Jesus.  We aren’t alone.  We have Jesus, and the many dear people praying for us, and helping us with cancer treatment costs. Adversity strengthens our faith as we trust in God.  The apostle Peter shared in 1 Peter 1:6-7: “Be truly glad. There is wonderful joy ahead, even though you must endure many trials for a little while. These trials will show that your faith is genuine. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold—though your faith is far more precious than mere gold. So when your faith remains strong through many trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world.”  And there are even more examples of how adversity can shape us.  But I’ve given enough to give you the idea.  Each aspect of adversity allows us to trust God just a little more to purify us as we trust him in difficult circumstances.  Thank God for his deep peace in the process.

Next time, we will explore further on overcoming obstacles, and characteristics of becoming an overcomer. While this is difficult, it keeps getting better, even when facing bad days (through covid or any other obstacles). Let’s trust Jesus as he sends Holy Spirit to give us the grace we need to overcome anything that comes against us. Let us overcome as well as Job, Paul, Joseph and others in the Bible. We aren’t alone. Thank you Lord for your grace, and give us the perseverance to run the race no matter the time of year or season we are in. Help us to keep our eyes on you, rather than our circumstances. You are still Lord, despite the covid-19 pandemic. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

If you’d like to hear an audio version of this article, please visit the Ways to Grow in God (WTGIG) podcast page on the coppleswesterncape.ca website (under the “Listen” drop-down menu).  Click here:  (https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/wtgig-podcasts.html) and scroll down to #66!  If you have been blessed by this article, please let us know!Updates:  For those looking for news on my cancer journey, I’m now declared chemically cancer free as of February 2021, but still in post-cancer treatments (lymphedema massage, physio, medications, scans and bloodwork).  I still owe credit card debt for some of the medical work and we are working towards that with art commissions and donations.

God’s peace is something that I’m clinging to as we plan our way back to Canada.  At the moment, our passports are in the hands of Home Affairs, so that we have an extension on our medical visas.  We would like to return in September 2021, after preparations to return with the help of a very capable Cape Town travel agent.  Gone are the days when we would plan our own travel online (apart from booking self-catering places).  After quarantine, we plan to stay with and care for my frail 92 year old dad.  Part of us longs for Canada, but we still greatly love South Africa.  We are glad that Jesus is carrying us, since we are frail.  Both of us have continuing health issues, including prostate cancer, eye issues (following Tony’s retina re-attachment surgery). We are seeing if these can in fact wait until our return to Canada, or if Tony’s eye surgery will have to be done in Cape Town.  It would be R90,000 (or $8,000).  Thanks for coming alongside us on our journey.  Being an overcomer is truly a process. We still need help. Tony has significant medical bills as well for TB, eye surgery, the urologist (who is monitoring the prostate cancer), and I have debt as well. Please click here for the medical campaign page to get more info: https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/medical-campaign.html.  We are still crowdfunding to cover the post cancer treatments and Tony’s eye operations. If you feel led to contribute, please do so via our PayPal:  https://www.paypal.me/WaystogrowinGod   If you do, please introduce yourself and say that you read “Ways to Grow in God.”  It would really bless us!  If you’re led to pray instead, we welcome your prayers and please do contact us.

L-A’s colouring book:  If you are in South Africa, and would like to purchase one of L-A’s colouring books, they are available at OliveTree Bookshop in Mountain Mill Shopping Centre (near Pick n Pay), Worcester, Western Cape.  You can also buy them at LeRoux and Fourie Wineshop on R60 beside Cape Lime (between Nuy and Robertson).  Or you can order one (or more) printed for you through Takealot.com through this link:

https://www.takealot.com/colouring-with-jesus/PLID68586424

The Colouring with Jesus 2 is in the works.  We are waiting on a teacher who is familiar with both Afrikaans and English.  She is proofreading the written section before it goes to print. After we return to Canada, we plan to republish the devotional colouring books into English-French.  Bless you and thank you for your support!

Love, Laurie-Ann

Growing in and through God’s peace

“Wimbe beach fishermen” drawn in Pemba, Mozambique by Laurie-Ann Zachar Copple

My name is Laurie-Ann, and I’m a missionary. During my mission travels, I have ministered with people in Northern Ireland, Pakistan, Canada and the USA.  I’ve also ministered in African countries like Kenya, Ghana, Sierra Leone, Mozambique, South Africa, Botswana and Namibia. But at this time, we live in the beautiful Western Cape of South Africa.

During our last articles, we journeyed through growing in courage.  We found that true courage is a gift from God. But it is also developed as we choose to focus on our source: God. This is what David did when he confronted Goliath in a mighty way to defend God’s honour to the Israelite army.   Courage, strength and joy are connected, as the joy of the Lord is our strength.  But so too, is courage.  Courage goes beyond the ability to stand and not back down. It’s also strength in the face of pain and grief; especially in the example of fighting an extended illness with great courage.  The illness could be cancer, or many invisible disabilities that bring daily pain and discouragement.  This is why courage to face the day is needed. Canadian prophet Darren Canning recently shared a great example of courage a few months ago:  He said, “One person in a war may seem like one piece of sand upon the seashore but one person filled with courage can speak to the wildest waves and they will have to obey.”  (Darren Canning, FB post October 10, 2019)

Everyday courage is also shown in your life wherever you are.  Perhaps you are looking at your OWN situation through your perspective. God wants you to come up higher to where he is, so that you can view the things that make you feel small and weak.  Instead, be strong and accept HIS strength in you.  To move forward, it is best to face your deepest fears!  Through God’s perspective, those fears are small and He helps you move through it to conquer.  You are a warrior.  Now we are going to learn about peace, which to be honest has been a difficult topic to nail down.  

Peace is not just the absence of war and strife, but this is something that many people give a toast towards.  They clink their glasses and say “to world peace.”  I doubt that would happen, especially in some troubled spots, but we like to think that we have a handle on the situation.  We care.   A Christian version of that is to remember those who fought in World War 1 and 2, as well as later conflicts.  There are so many.  We remember them on Remembrance Day, November 11, at 11 in the morning.  The British call this Armistice Day and the Americans call it Veterans’ Day.  It’s important to remember those who work to protect us from harm, like the military and the police.   I remember when I was part of a church choir. I love to sing.  There is a song that we used to sing that goes, “Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me.”  If you know it, that mention may put the tune in your head.  It’s a good thing to remember.  

Peacemakers are special people put in difficult situations.  They can be military, chaplains, or ordinary folk like you and me.  Many times in church history, missionaries and pastors have been used to diffuse situations.  I remember reading some Olea Nel books about Andrew Murray’s life.  He diffused many storms during his ministry in Bloemfontein, as well as being used as an instrument of revival in the Cape Awakening in the 1860’s.    

Peacemaking is one aspect of stewarding God’s grace and peace.  Ken Sande has written a few books on resolving conflicts.  I read through much of his book The Peacemaker. He talks about the four G’s of peacemaking. These are: Number one: Glorify God.  How can we please and honour God in this situation? Glorifying God benefits you as well as inviting the Holy Spirit into the situation. 

Number two:  Get the log out of your own eye.  How can we show Jesus’ work in me by taking responsibility for our own contribution to this conflict?  Jesus challenged the Pharisees in Matthew 7:3. He said, “Why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own?”  Sometimes our own sins and struggles colour your perspective and worsen the situation. 

Number three:  Gently restore.  How can I lovingly serve others to help take their own responsibility?

Number Four:  Go and be reconciled.  How can I demonstrate the forgiveness of God and encourage a reasonable solution to this conflict?  [Ken Sande, The Peacemaker, P 37 – 38]

Ken also notes that when people hurt you, and you respond in pain, he has a solution for that:  “Instead of reacting harshly or seeking revenge, God calls us to be merciful to those to offend us. Luke 6:36 says, “You must be compassionate, just as your Father is compassionate.”  We cannot serve others this way in our own strength. We must continually breathe in God’s grace” (through Bible Study, prayer, worship and Christian fellowship).  [Ken Sande, The Peacemaker, P 34]. You need to have peace to be a peacemaker.  Running away from conflict is not the answer, although temporarily it may give a little break.  It’s not a long term solution. 

But when you are in a situation, and show God’s glory in diffusing it, there is a special blessing for you.  Matthew 5:9 says,  “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons and daughters of God.”  Now all who come to faith in Jesus are sons and daughters, so this likely means peacemaking is very much part of our role at some time or another.

Peace is also something that combats uncertainty.  When you have confidence and trust in Jesus, you can have peace that while you aren’t in control, he is.  You can’t do anything about what you can’t control.  If the storm or situation feels too big, He will help show you the steps, one by one to take, to resolve the issue.  God is faithful and will finish what He started, and will fulfill his promises.  Philippians 1:6 shares that, “God is the one who began this good work in you, and I am certain that he won’t stop before it is complete.”

Max Lucado shares in his book Be Anxious for Nothing, on how to diffuse the anxiety that comes when you are overwhelmed and you don’t feel in control.  He confirms my thoughts that when you believe that God is sovereign and in control, you have a measure of peace.  He says, “Belief always precedes behaviour. For this reason, the apostle Paul in each of his epistles, addressed convictions before he addressed actions. To change the way a person responds to life, change what a person believes about life.”  “In the treatment of anxiety, a proper understanding of sovereignty is huge.

Anxiety is often the consequence of perceived chaos.  If we sense we are victims of unseen, turbulent, random forces, we are troubled.” [Max Lucado: Be Anxious for Nothing  P22]  So, the formula is simple: Perceived control creates calm. Lack of control gives birth for fear.” Here’s an example: “A team of German researchers found that a traffic jam increases your chances of a heart attack threefold. Makes sense.  Gridlock is the ultimate loss of control. You may know how to drive, but that fellow in the next lane doesn’t! We can be the best drivers in history, but the texting teenager might be the end of us. There is no predictability, just stress.”  Anxiety increases as perceived control decreases.” [Lucado, p 23] 

We want certainty, but the only certainty is the lack of it. This is why the most stressed-out people are control freaks.  “We can’t take control, because control is not ours to take.” The Bible has a much better idea. Rather than seeking total control, relinquish it instead. You can give it to God.  Peace is within reach, not for lack of problems, but because of the presence of a sovereign Lord.”   Instead of rehearsing the chaos of the world situations or a personal crisis, instead, rejoice in the Lord’s sovereignty, as Paul did.” [Lucado, p 24]  To read Paul is to read the words of a man who, in the innermost part of his being, he believed in the steady hand of a good God.  He was protected by God’s strength, preserved by God’s love.  He lived beneath the shadow of God’s wings.  Do you?”  It’s a choice.  Do you want to live in fear or let go and live in peace?

Peace is also a fruit of the Spirit, as shown in Galatians 5:22-23.  The Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control.”  Peace is a supernatural by-product of getting closer to Jesus. If God is peaceful by nature, then to get close to God is to live in His peace. The nearer we move to Him, the more of His peace we can experience. Thankfully, the Bible provides us specific guidance about how to be closer to Him.  James 4:8 shares that if we “Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” If you are genuinely seeking him, he will not turn you away.

Matthew 7:7-8 promises us to, “Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find.  Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.”   That promise is the Holy Spirit, and this includes peace. The Apostle Paul also advises us in Colossians 3:15.   He said to “let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body, you were called to peace.  And be thankful.”

I found quite a few readings on peace, from my former employer, Darren Canning, to the editors of Christianity.com.  Let’s hear Darren’s prophetic words on peace.  When I read his message, think about trusting Jesus and letting him carry you.  Darren shares that God’s peace drips on us like dew, when we are in his presence.  His message is called “His Peace in the Storm.”  When I hear those words, I think of Jesus being asleep in the boat, while his disciples were fearful due to the storm.  And when he woke up, he was still at peace and commanded the wind and the waves to be still.  And they were.  That is peace in the storm.  Peace wins out over fear.  Look up the story in Mark 4 verses 34 to 41. Here’s Darren:

“The term ‘fear not’ occurs in the Bible 365 times.  This is one for every day of the year.  There is a reason that “Fear Not” is in the Bible that many times and that is because as people we deal with all kinds of fear, but you do not have to fear in Christ.”  [Darren Canning, “His Peace in the Storm” ministry email message, September 8, 2019]

Darren says that healing of the mind is really healing from fears.  What is the fear that you need to overcome today?  Jesus is the answer for it.  Darren met two older women recently who told him they had a fear of heights; so to overcome that fear, they went para-sailing in Florida.  Afterward they told him they still had a fear of heights.   That might seem funny but we do all kinds of things in the natural to try to overcome our fear but really our fears are healed in Christ in God.  What is your fear today?  Are you afraid of being alone?  Are you afraid of the dark?  Are you afraid of losing it all or dying?


Whatever you are afraid of, God has the answer for that fear.  Psalm 23:4 says, “Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”  Darren shares that “His precious peace in my heart says to me that everything is going to be OK.  There are times I don’t feel that peace and I even forget to pray in those times.  For a little while anyway his peace is not with me, but then I remember Him again and His spirit is with me.  His spirit inside of me is the assurance that I will pass through the troubled waters.  Isaiah 43:2 says, “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.” [Darren Canning, “His Peace in the Storm”] This passage in Isaiah actually represents a promise from God.  Your anxiety and fear may feel like a fire but the Lord will meet you in the fire.  Just pray.  Just seek Him.  Declare His name over that storm that you are facing today.  The waters may be churning inside your life, but He is the one who can end the storm.  He will be with you through every trial and every problem.  You will overcome this world by the power of God within you. [Darren Canning, “His Peace in the Storm”]  Darren says that God’s peace drenches him like dew.

When Darren becomes aware of it, things have a way of turning around.  God is able to make all grace abound in his life. and He does.  Stay close to Him today and watch as He shifts you into a new mindset.”  [Darren Canning, “His Peace in the Storm”]  This goes back to what Max Lucado shared earlier. When we believe Jesus and his care for us, we know we aren’t alone.  Jesus is with us, walking with us and when we look into his loving, fiery eyes, we can’t help but have softened hearts, and know that he cares for every detail. 

Peace is also very important as a confirmation in decision making.  Just as I was writing this devotional, a teacher friend told me that her husband was offered a wonderful work position in Clanwilliam.  However, it would mean leaving his wife and child behind, in a time when they want to have another child.  He said no to the opportunity, because he did not have peace about it.  And when he shared his decision with his wife, she felt such deep peace that she could stop, breathe and feel the peace come and fill her like a waterfall. 

What is the peace of God?  Is it just goosebumps, or fleeting moments?  It doesn’t have to be.  We can live in peace, as we desire more and more of God.  It’s one of the benefits of being with him.  When I was diagnosed with cancer, I felt very deep peace when the doctor gave me the news.  I had a picture of Jesus carrying me, and since then, he still is.  Peace, joy and a positive attitude were part of the reason why the tumour already shrunk 60 percent in two months.  Think of it, 60 percent!  That’s not just the chemo.  It’s God.  It’s also the prayers of the children we teach, and the teens that we disciple.  It’s the prayers of many churches in the Western Cape, and eastern and southern Ontario.  There are so many factors.  But they are all weaved together by God through his deep peace.  Now in May 2021, I am cancer free! (However, the journey continues with recovering from the harsh treatments).

Elizabeth George writes devotional books.  One of them is Experiencing God’s Peace, which is a Bible study on Philippians.  I recommend this book, since normally Philippians is seen as a book of joy in the midst of difficult circumstances.  Paul was in custody as a prisoner, and chained to a guard all of the time.  Yet he had joy and he had peace, as he got to share the gospel with his guards, and he had joy in counselling the Philippian church.  In the midst of her study, Elizabeth shares, “But our wonderful God has provided real peace for us as his dear children – and this includes you!  What a splendid thought to know that, even though Jesus stated in John 6:33, “In the world, you will have tribulation, (BUT) you will have the provision of God’s perfect peace in every circumstance through all of life.”   [Elizabeth George, Experiencing God’s Peace p 10]  She even pairs together grace and peace as supernatural power twins in Philippians chapter 1.  This is part of Paul’s greeting to the church.  It’s not a throwaway line!  Here is Paul’s prayer in verse 2: “May God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ give you grace and peace.”  These two together are like strength, perseverance and deep peace.  Wouldn’t you love some of that?

And then I read the very core of what God’s peace really is.  It’s not something that is fleeting.  It can last a long time.  Here’s the take on peace from the editors of Christianity.com.  “According to the Bible, the peace of God, “which transcends all understanding,” is the harmony and calmness of body, mind, and spirit that supersedes earthly circumstance. Nearly all of the letters of Paul start with the phrase “Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.” Throughout scripture, we find that peace is defined as a blessing from God and harmonious with His character.”  [Christianity.com, What is the Peace of God? https://www.christianity.com/wiki/god/what-is-the-peace-of-god-biblical-meaning.html]

The Apostle Paul shared  in Philippians 4:7 that after we pray and leave our concerns with God, this happens… “the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”   The peace of God can also be described as a tranquil state of appreciation and faith. This happens especially when we submit to and trust the commandments of God and Christ. “It requires a mixture of humility and courage to experience God’s peace, seeking beyond the mere abilities of our own understanding.”  [What is the Peace of God] Sometimes we just don’t understand, but that’s okay.  We don’t see the whole picture.  Proverbs 3:5 reminds us to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. The next verse tells us to “acknowledge him in all your ways, and he will direct your paths.”  We need to trust God and let go of our fears.  Most of the fears are about things that won’t happen anyway. 

Ask him to give you that peace.  1 Thessalonians  5:23 shares a wonderful prayer of peace. Paul prayed:  “May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.”  The nearer we move to Him, the more of His peace we can experience.

Daniel Pontius also shares about that perfect peace in a deep way.  He says that this otherworldly Peace has the capability of not just safeguarding you and your life, but also shifting the atmospheres and circumstances wherever you go as well.” [Daniel Pontius, “Jesus’ Powerful Peace,” ministry email through Darren Canning Ministries, November 10, 2019]

Philippians 4:7 speaks into our hearts:  “And GOD’S PEACE WHICH TRANSCENDS ALL UNDERSTANDING shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” This Powerful Peace bypasses your natural understanding; because it will be there when you shouldn’t normally be experiencing such peace. Then if you take it, and speak to the storms of your life with it, it will even silence those storms around you as well! Whether they are in your life or the lives of those around you, this Powerful Heavenly force of God will be your ally when YOU NEED IT THE MOST AND EXPECT IT THE LEAST!!! Jesus told us, in John 14:27: “Peace I leave with you; My [own] peace I now give and bequeath to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you.” [Daniel Pontius, “Jesus’ Powerful Peace,”

So as I close, I pray over you the perfect peace that you need in your situation.  It’s not manufactured by us.  Our part is to stop, breathe and seek God.  Give him your situation.  And if you don’t know Jesus yet, give him your life.  Don’t worry, Jesus cares for you deeply.  Take a deep breath and walk forward.  Jesus is standing right before you.  Will you let him carry you?  Will you let him give you his deep peace?  Don’t be anxious.  Offer yourself and your requests to God.  Jesus is listening.  Holy Spirit is ready to touch and fill you.  He will wash away sins, and heal your heart as you continue to give all your hurts to him. 

Lord Jesus, I thank you for your perfect peace.  It’s not a worldly peace, but a supernatural peace that we all want more of.  We also want you.  You are the perfect prince of peace.  Thank you for all you did and do for us.  Thank you for everything.  Fill the hearts of all who are listening.  You are real.  And you are a very personal God.  In Jesus’ name, Amen.

  
Remember, do not be anxious about anything.  In every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present those requests to God.  Don’t forget.

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Updates:  For those looking for news on my cancer journey, I’m now declared chemically cancer free as of February 2021, but still in post-cancer treatments (lymphedema massage, physio, medications, scans and blood work). 

On a side note, God’s peace is something that I’m clinging to as we plan our way back to Canada.  At the moment, our passports are in the hands of Home Affairs, so that we have an extension on our medical visas.  We would like to return in September 2021, and (after quarantine) we plan to stay with and care for my frail 92 year old dad.  Part of us longs for Canada, but we still greatly love South Africa.  We are glad that Jesus is carrying us, since we are frail.  Tony has prostate cancer, but it may wait until our journey to Canada.  We trust that its progress will be slow enough that the effects of the covid pandemic on the Canadian health system won’t hinder his healing.  It would have hindered me, since inflammatory cancer doesn’t wait!  Thanks for coming alongside us on our journey.

We believe that the medical treatment here is excellent, although expensive, despite the rand-Canadian dollar exchange has helped keep costs almost 15 percent lower.  We have incurred significant medical debt, although kind people in Canada and around the world have helped us so far.  God bless each and every one of them.  But we still need help. Tony has significant medical bills as well for TB, eye surgery and other issues. Please click here for the medical campaign page to get more info: https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/medical-campaign.html.  I want to thank Teriro, who blessed us with a gift in February.  We weren’t expecting it when it came!  Most people who are led to give are friends, or friends of friends, so when friends we’ve not met yet respond, it’s very special!

We are still crowdfunding to cover the L-A’s post cancer treatments (as well as Tony’s TB, eye and prostate treatments). If you feel led to contribute, please do so via our PayPal:  https://www.paypal.me/WaystogrowinGod   If you do, please introduce yourself and say that you read “Ways to Grow in God.”  It would really bless us!

L-A’s colouring book:  If you are in South Africa, and would like to purchase one of L-A’s colouring books, they are available at OliveTree Bookshop in Mountain Mill Shopping Centre (near Pick n Pay), Worcester, Western Cape.  You can also buy them at LeRoux and Fourie Wineshop on R60 beside Cape Lime (between Nuy and Robertson).  Or you can order one (or more) printed for you through Takealot.com through this link:

https://www.takealot.com/colouring-with-jesus/PLID68586424

The Colouring with Jesus 2 is in the works.  We just finished translation mode into Afrikaans, and the book is in proof reading mode in both languages. After we return to Canada, we plan to republish the devotional colouring books into English-French.  Bless you and thank you for your support!

Love, Laurie-Ann

Growing God through courage part 2

“Armour of God” by Laurie-Ann Zachar Copple, 2001

My name is Laurie-Ann, and I’m a missionary. During my mission travels, I have ministered with people in Northern Ireland, Pakistan, Canada and the USA.  I’ve also ministered in African countries like Kenya, Ghana, Sierra Leone, Mozambique, South Africa and Botswana. But at this time, we live in the beautiful Western Cape of South Africa.

During our last broadcast, we journeyed through growing in courage.  We’re going to continue that journey.  We found that true courage is a gift from God. But it is also developed as we choose to focus on our source: God. This is what David did when he confronted Goliath in a mighty way to defend God’s honour to the Israelite army.   Courage, strength and joy are connected, as the joy of the Lord is our strength.  But so too, is courage.  Courage goes beyond the ability to stand and not back down. It’s also strength in the face of pain and grief; especially in the example of fighting an extended illness with great courage.  The illness could be cancer, or many invisible disabilities that bring daily pain and discouragement.  This is why courage to face the day is needed. Canadian prophet Darren Canning recently shared a great example of courage recently:  He said, “One person in a war may seem like one piece of sand upon the seashore but one person filled with courage can speak to the wildest waves and they will have to obey.”  (Darren Canning, FB post October 10, 2019)

Everyday courage is also shown in your life wherever you are.  It means you don’t have to be a soldier or a missionary to have courage.  Every day acts of courage include apologizing when you are wrong; it takes courage to admit that you are wrong partly because you are confirming that someone else is right and therefore has the advantage over you. You also need courage to be yourself, especially in a culture that likes to imitate, and succumbs so often to peer pressure. Don’t copy or compare yourself with others.  Pastor Shawn Gabie often tells his congregation that “comparison is a calling killer.”  You also need to take responsibility.  You are where you are in life because of your past choices, although God’s grace, mercy and favour may have altered these circumstances.  Keep your commitments, and don’t be a drop-out.  Let go of the past and don’t let it hinder you anymore.  Listen attentively to your mentors and grow. And there is still more.  If you’ve not listened to part 1 podcast, I invite you to do so; its available on our Copples Western Cape website.

Mark Altrogge shares five reasons to take courage.  One, we can take courage, because God is with us, by his Holy Spirit.  Even in Joshua 1:9, we hear, “Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”  We are not alone.  Jesus also promised that he would not leave us alone.  He left us the Holy Spirit, who is a wonderful companion.   “We can take courage because we aren’t facing our challenges alone. God, the creator of the universe, the all-powerful One, is right here with us. He’s not far off and uninvolved. When we don’t know what to do, he does. He’s never tired, never weary, never takes a break.” [Mark Altrogge,  5 Reasons to Take Strong Courage Today, https://www.biblestudytools.com/blogs/mark-altrogge/5-reasons-to-take-strong-courage-today.html]

Number two: God has a plan for us. An example of this was when Paul was encouraged by the Lord who spoke into his heart.  He said these words in Acts 23:11, “Take courage, for as you have testified to the facts about me in Jerusalem, so you must testify also in Rome.”  God had a plan for Tony and me to come to South Africa, which was confirmed by dreams, visions and prophetic words from many different leaders. We are thankful.  And there is more after this assignment, although South Africa will always be in our hearts.  We truly love it here.

Number three:  we can take courage (or take heart) because Jesus has overcome the world.  Jesus shares with his disciples, and us in John 16:33, “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace.  In the world you will have tribulation.  But take heart; I have overcome the world.”   Jesus’ words remind us that we WILL have difficulties in life, and when we have tribulation for our faith, don’t be surprised by it.  The world hates Jesus, even though Jesus seems to be given a veneer of respect. But Jesus was radically courageous.  He didn’t care what the Pharisees and others thought of him.  He just kept his eyes on the Father, and was led by the Holy Spirit.  And nothing can separate us from his love, even though it may outwardly seem that way. Keep looking up at him… or if you are walking on the water OUTSIDE the boat – don’t take your eyes off of him. Forget the circumstances. They change like shifting shadows. They don’t last.

Number four: we need to remember that nothing can separate us from God’s love.  Just read Romans 8 and see what I mean. The list Paul gives is amazing. No matter what you are going through, you can be assured that we aren’t outside of God’s love.  Jesus will hold us in his love and never let go.  It’s the case with me, as I let him carry me through this cancer journey.  He hasn’t let me down yet, and he won’t.   Number Five brings us to the promise that God himself will strengthen us.  The prophet Isaiah declared many promises of hope and strength. Isaiah 12:2 shares “See, God has come to save me. I will trust in him and not be afraid. The Lord God is my strength and my song; he has given me victory.”  Isaiah also declared in [Isaiah] 41:10, “don’t be afraid, for I am with you.  Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.  “We don’t have to summon up strength from within ourselves.” [Mark Altrogge]   There just isn’t any inside. Pastor Mark Altrogge says, “don’t worry if you’ll have enough courage for tomorrow. God will give you all the strength you need for today. And he’s got bags and bags of grace stored up for tomorrow, a whole warehouse of grace stored up for the future.” [Mark Altrogge] I find that thought liberating.

Britnee Bradshaw shares how God makes a way through what seems impossible at first.  Earlier I mentioned the story of David and Goliath.  Tony and I have had impossible situations on our mission trips – from travel blocks stopping us getting to Sierra Leone (like the Iceland volcano grounding most trans-Atlantic flights), to bureaucratic slowness dealing with many things in South Africa, to my illness.  Tony and I actually persevered through the Sierra Leone situation, when the Holy Spirit whispered to my heart that there was another way to get to Sierra Leone, and we took it, with a professional travel agent. Britnee has her own story. She also leans on the promises mentioned earlier of Joshua’s declaration of God’s power over circumstances.  She also reminds us to live out of his strength rather than our own, and calls on Psalm 40:2, “He lifted me out of the pit of despair, out of the mud and the mire. He set my feet on solid ground, and steadied me as I walked along.”   This is as much a promise as my favourite winter prayer from Jude 1:24: “To him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you before his glorious presence without fault and with great joy.”  Being steadied, and being kept from stumbling in many ways, is very much a promise that I depend on.  But then there is the time where God makes a way where there SEEMS to be no way. Here’s Britnee Bradshaw’s story. She says, “I thought my world was falling apart back when I was a new stay-at-home mom. Actually, though, my life was coming together. God gave me wisdom, experience, and the opportunity to keep moving forward in my life through faith, even though I didn’t understand how I was going to overcome. Well, I’m here and alive to tell you that God was right! During that season, he impressed on my heart that even though I felt weak, I was not. I had him on my side and my weakness only served to display his strength.

Since we are human, we all have areas where we are weak and where we are strong. In the areas where we are strong, we are, because He is. In 2 Corinthians 12:9, Paul reminds us that in the ways that we are weak, God’s “power is made perfect.” [Britnee Bradshaw, Be Strong and Courageous: How to Rest in God when Fear overwhelms you https://www.ibelieve.com/health-beauty/be-strong-and-courageous-how-to-rest-in-god-when-fear-overwhelms-you.html]

In what areas of your life do you need to rely on God’s strength?  Missionary Tracy Evans uses the story of Gideon and his little band of 300 men.  Because this small group trusted God, the large army that came against them was routed – not by their own might.  They only brought lanterns and trumpets!  “No swords. No bows and arrows. No spears. No shields. Not one person in God’s army was carrying a weapon!” [Kris and Jason Vallotton, Outrageous Courage: What God can do with Raw Obedience and Radical Courage] Like Moses before him, who was led to battle for the release of the Hebrews in Egypt, Gideon was given the promise “I will be with you.” “An incredible bond of trust was formed between God and Gideon on the battlefield of self-abandonment.  Through Gideon’s courageous choices, and unyielding obedience, the impossible happened. A nation stepped back into its rightful place with God, and the people’s inheritance was restored to them. Those five words, ‘I will be with you’ are our security when God invites us to face an impossible circumstance.”

“You may be facing an impossible situation in your life right now, but whatever your circumstances, God wants to invite you to follow Him on this supernatural Great Adventure.  The key to answering his invitation is letting go of everything you look to for security, and simply trusting Jesus instead.” [Kris and Jason Vallotton]

What areas of your life do you need to rely on God’s strength?  If you can remember the book of Numbers, it features the leaders Joshua and Caleb. They were the only older leaders who originally had the faith, courage and confidence in God to cross into the promised land (where there were some giants living there).  Although the giants were bigger and stronger than the Israelites, Joshua and Caleb knew they could take the land because God was with them. Numbers 13:30 shares, ”And Caleb stilled the people before Moses, and said, Let us go up at once, and possess it; for we are well able to overcome it.”  This was because they knew God directed them to do so. Ten of the other scouts hesitated due to their fear of the Anakite giants. Their eyes were on the giants and their own physical ability; rather on God’s ability.   

Perhaps you are looking at your OWN situation through your perspective. God wants you to come up higher to where he is, so that you can view the things that make you feel small and weak.  Instead, be strong and accept HIS strength in you.

To move forward, it is best to face your deepest fears!.  Britnee Bradshaw shares how she faced hers. She says, “Fear and I have definitely gone round for round over the last two years of my life. I can say that I am a victor over fear, but it took my being afraid and having to be placed in situations to face and reject it. I met fear the day my daughter was born. We had to have an emergency c-section, which was never part of the plan for me and Christopher. We had planned for a natural birth at a birth center, not a surgical one in a hospital. I hated hospitals because it reminded me of sickness and death. Even though I intellectually knew that people get healed and live there, the reputation hospitals had in my mind wasn’t a good one.

I will say that I wasn’t ready to die on that operating table. But I felt like it. I mean, to be honest, up until that point, my pregnancy was healthy and extremely low-risk. I didn’t even understand how we got there. So, if being in the hospital could happen to someone like me, surely death could happen too, right? And it wasn’t just my life that I feared for. It was my daughter’s life, too. Her heart rate dropped with every contraction I had. The contractions that were supposed to bring her alive into the world were instead hurting her. I was afraid.”  [Britnee Bradshaw]  But Britnee did face her fears and found strength in her weakest moment.  She says, “In that operating room, I trembled with fear. I smelt it in the air. It was overwhelming. But in my heart, I knew that Jesus was my savior for a reason. He had defeated and conquered fear. So, I thought on his name. Almost instantly, the fear in that room melted away. Jesus gained the victory over fear and death. He gave fear and death black eyes and knocked them out for good. I had Jesus. I still do.”  [Britnee Bradshaw]    The scripture she clung to during that time was 2 Timothy 1:7, which says, “God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and love and sound mind.”  Other versions of that verse say self control or discipline, but sound mind takes into account deeper aspects of not only the psyche but the spirit.  Britnee notes that Fear IS a spirit, but it is not one that God gives us. Therefore, we can be courageous and live above fear. This doesn’t mean that we won’t ever feel afraid. We will. This means that when we start to feel fear rise up, we can combat it with the truth of what God has given us: Courage. 

Maybe the source of your weakness and fear isn’t the same as mine. That’s OK, it doesn’t make your weakness and fear any less valid to God. God’s Word is the same for my situation, as it is for yours, as it is for the next person. It is real and active and alive. Decide not to live in a place of weakness and fear. Take captive of the victim mentality and choose to know yourself as God knows you. Be strong and courageous!”

Tracy Evans (through the writing of the Valattons), says that after you accept God’s invitation to trust Jesus instead, “at first, it may feel as though you are free-falling, but you can be sure that He will catch you before you hit the ground.  The MORE you trust him, the more fun it gets, Before long, you will be like an excited child shouting to his or her father, ‘Do it again! Throw me up and catch me again!’  THIS is the secret to the Great Adventure – blind faith and wild trust!”  [Kris and Jason Vallotton]

Tracy Evans has many stories of how she developed amazing courage, in the Philippines as a hostage, in the dumps among disease, in Mozambique in the midst of riots and gunfire, and in emergencies like one I read on an earlier radio show when Tracy helped over 18 wounded people on a remote South African road side. She didn’t even have medical supplies yet.  She used her medical skills to tend to the wounded, and God took care of the rest. The rest included major healings, and a lady, who was confirmed dead, but came back to life.  To read of these stories and the courage that came from radical obedience and trust, please go find a copy of Outrageous Courage: What God can do with Raw Obedience and Radical Faith.  

You may not be at that level of courage, but there are times that you can be if and when you trust God.  There are times that I’ve been emboldened and Tony has looked at me with amazement. But it’s Holy Spirit, and me responding with authority.  I especially do this when there are children involved.  I guess it’s the mama or auntie in me.  I’ve truly become a spiritual mom, and that in itself is a courageous thing. Something changes in you when you become responsible for someone else. It is when we sacrificially love someone that we can become a hero.  Tracy Evans says, “These days, it seems as if the idea of sacrificing for a noble cause has fallen on hard times in Western culture. [Just look at veterans and how they are treated.]  Heroism has gradually declined. It has been replaced by a self-centred, comfort loving, virtueless culture.” [Kris and Jason Vallotton]  “Simply put, people who do not know how to sacrifice do not know how to love. They will never know the depths of human fellowship the way [that those who sacrifice have learned. These include veterans].  In the words of Christ, only he who lays his life down for his friends, knows such great love. [Just read John 15:13]: “Greater love hath not man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”  [Kris and Jason Vallotton]  I know of many such people who are not afraid to be at the centre of God’s will for them.  Tony and I are even shown respect when we go into Avian Park. Our car is known.  We are known as friends, and the gangs and any who seek to harm, leave us alone.  We are even given smiles and greetings of “Uncle Tony!”  Others, such as Erena in Change Makers, are greatly loved by the people in Roodewal.  It’s such a delight to be with people who aren’t afraid to walk in their calling.  They have great courage.

It is also a courageous thing to stand up to cancer and not let it get you down.  There is a reason why the support groups call those who battle cancer, warriors.  Because it IS a battle. Some days the cancer seems to be stronger – but not for long.  Remember, that God is still bigger than the cancer.  Thankfully, due to my faith, Jesus is carrying me through it. Even when I had a fall due to a walking stick accident, and a loss of balance in a moment of chemo brain fog, there was a nurse who just happened to walk by.  She even remembered me from my time in the local Mediclinic hospital.  She got me up off the sidewalk safely.  I am thankful she was there at such a time.  It reminds me that even if we DO fall, God will be there to pick us up at just the right time.  Psalm 91:11-12 Passion Translation, says, “God sends angels with special orders to protect you wherever you go, defending you from all harm. If you walk into a trap, they’ll be there for you and keep you from stumbling.”  While I did fall, I was cushioned slightly and rescued quickly. I believe that I will not fall again, and have learned there is such a thing as loss of balance due to chemotherapy, as well as the associated brain fog that comes with it.  Then it will take courage for me to walk where I used to walk normally.  It will be OK – since God will give me the courage I need, the awareness of the surroundings as well as his presence.  Courage faces us forward.  Fear has us look back.  Which will you choose?  Will you move forward WITH me? 

Lord Jesus, thank you for protecting me, despite my fall.  May you keep me from falling again.  Thank you for those who are listening.  Reach out to any who have been dealing with fear of their circumstances.  And for those who are in a battle.  You fight for us.  Yes, we are warriors and you embolden us, but the battle is yours, and YOU fight FOR us.  Thank you that you do, and that you have won.  We don’t have to whine like victims. We are victors, as my name says.  Laurie-Ann is victory through grace.  And may you give us that victory through YOUR grace.  In Jesus’ name.

If you’d like to hear an audio version of this article, please visit the Ways to Grow in God (WTGIG) podcast page on the coppleswesterncape.ca website (under the “Listen” drop-down menu).  Click here:  (https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/wtgig-podcasts.html) and scroll down to #65!  If you have been blessed by this article, please let us know!

Updates:  For those looking for news on my cancer journey, I’m now declared chemically cancer free as of February 2021, but still in post-cancer treatments (lymphedema massage, physio, medications, scans and bloodwork).  On a side note, while I was in my cancer journey, I ordered a “Courage” key from the Giving Keys NGO in Los Angeles.  I still expect to wear this after we return to Canada later this year. 

It will take courage to uproot ourselves and move back to Canada in the midst of heavy covid-19 restrictions in Canada that will severely limit us re-settling in both Toronto to take care of my frail 92 year old dad, and then in Ottawa, where we have our condo (which is rented out to others at this time).  We also need courage to face a crisis with Tony.  He has TB, and has been in treatment for six months. 

He also is battling a nearly detached retina in his left eye.  It’s one thing after another, but we are in SA on medical visas now, so it’s appropriate that we are having treatment as well as ministry.  We believe that the medical treatment here is excellent, although expensive, despite the rand-Canadian dollar exchange has helped keep costs almost 15 percent lower. 

We have incurred significant medical debt, although kind people in Canada and around the world have helped us so far.  God bless each and every one of them.  But we still need help. Tony has significant medical bills as well for TB, eye surgery and other issues. Please click here for the medical campaign page to get more info: https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/medical-campaign.html

I want to thank Teriro, who blessed us with a gift in February.  We weren’t expecting it when it came!  Most people who are led to give are friends, or friends of friends, so when friends we’ve not met yet respond, it’s very special!

We are still crowdfunding to cover the post cancer treatments (as well as Tony’s TB and eye treatments). If you feel led to contribute, please do so via our PayPal:  https://www.paypal.me/WaystogrowinGod

L-A’s colouring book:  If you are in South Africa, and would like to purchase one of L-A’s colouring books, they are available at OliveTree Bookshop in Mountain Mill Shopping Centre (near Pick n Pay), Worcester, Western Cape.  You can also buy them at LeRoux and Fourie Wineshop on R60 beside Cape Lime (between Nuy and Robertson).  Or you can order one (or more) printed for you through Takealot.com through this link:  https://www.takealot.com/colouring-with-jesus/PLID68586424 The Colouring with Jesus 2 is in the works.  We just finished translation mode into Afrikaans, and are awaiting a proof reader in both languages. After we return to Canada, we plan to republish the devotional colouring books into English-French. 

Bless you and thank you for your support!

Laurie-Ann

Growing though courage: part 1

“The Angel of the Lord defends those who fear him” by Laurie-Ann Zachar Copple, 2019.

My name is Laurie-Ann, and I’m a missionary. During my mission travels, I have ministered with people in Northern Ireland, Pakistan, Canada and the USA.  I’ve also ministered in African countries like Kenya, Ghana, Sierra Leone, Mozambique, South Africa, Botswana and Namibia. But at this time, we live in the beautiful Western Cape of South Africa.

During the last article, we journeyed through growing in our refuge. This isn’t just running to a place of safety, like the days of old when people ran for sanctuary.  It’s also not about being a refugee, although there are so many examples of refugees and displaced people today. This is a world-wide phenomenon.  The Bible shares about the importance of being kind to strangers and soujourners in the land.  In some way, we are soujourners in South Africa, since we are here on a 3 year visa, with a medical visa extension. 

But the ultimate form of refuge is to lean heavily on Jesus in hard times.  He sets us above the floodwaters that come in.  I spoke of the refuge boxes that are placed on the pilgrim route and road into Lindisfarne Holy Island.  If someone is stranded while the tide comes, they can take shelter there.  There is also the form of refuge that Jesus carries you through difficult times like in the well-known Footprints poem. That pilgrim took refuge in Jesus’ carrying him, although he did not know it.  In my case, the Holy Spirit showed me an image where Jesus carried me close to his chest. Every time I began to look around, Holy Spirit nudged my head back into Jesus’ chest.  I felt safe.  I felt loved.  I knew it would be okay.  Now I also know that I was in shock, and later came to feel the normal feelings that come with loss: grief, sorrow, anger, and more.  But it’s OK.  Jesus has still carried me, he’s been inspiring certain people to pitch in towards our medical expenses, and giving me the needed strength to do what I must do.  Then Tony got sick with TB, and I was given a dream of Jesus carrying him across a windy beach.  Jesus looked back at me, walking behind him in a walker.  He said to be “follow me.” Fortunately he moved slowly so that I could follow, but gain strength and courage in the walking.

Strength and courage are strongly connected.  Courage is what we are filled with that gives us strength.  It’s also related to joy, as shown in Nehemiah 8:10, “Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.”

Warriors often rely on strength and courage.  Warriors who are Christian trust God, despite their momentary fear, and choose to push on.  This is a very real and gritty thing. A soldier may find himself in grave danger, but he pushes on, one step at a time.  Sometimes soldiers will do heroic feats, like rescuing a child in the midst of a battle, or protecting a fallen comrade.  That is courage.  There is a special saying in Afrikaans that coloured folk here say that sums up what is needed: “sterke” or strongs.  It has a connotation that is deeper than the English mentality of ‘chin up mate and carry on.’  It’s strength that requires courage.  Courage strengthens.  I believe that true courage is from God.  During the first month or two following my cancer diagnosis, I have been told that I am strong and have shown courage and bravery, by many people, both in the church and outside of it.  Tony tells people of my strong attitude.  But I confess that it really is God’s strength that carries me.  What people see is my determination to trust God, and they see his joy and peace in me – at most times.  Even heroes have their moments of sadness, fear and confusion.  Tony’s daughter-in-law is a gem who has been a cheerleader for me along the way. Her name is Kathy.  She told me that I was near the top of her hero list for the strength and courage that was visible to her. Later, during a weak moment of sadness, she acknowledged that it was okay.  She insightfully and tenderly told me, “it’s okay to feel sad and be what you are in any changing moment.  This is your first cry since diagnosis, so you’ve probably been denying your negative feelings.  Let them be what they are, so you can acknowledge them and let them go when they’ve run their course.  You’re fighting an epic battle and there will be ups and downs. Walk in freedom and be beautiful you through it all. Love you and hope you find a lift in your psyche soon.” This is one of many wonderful messages that acknowledged the real journey where I have been growing in strength through God’s courage and joy.

What is courage?  Courage is often understood as the choice and willingness to confront agony, pain, danger, uncertainty and intimidation. Courage gives you the ability to stand, and not back down.  It is also the ability to do something that normally would frighten you, something that is BRAVE.  It’s also strength in the face of pain and grief; especially in the example of fighting an extended illness with great courage.  The illness could be cancer, or many other invisible disabilities that bring daily pain and discouragement.  This is why courage to face the day is needed.

Personal courage has two aspects, physical (to keep you ‘going’ during each day), and moral. The moral includes spiritual, which is at the centre of our hearts.  Our Faith in Jesus is the core of this.  Holy Spirit is the one who fills us with what we need.  There is a Bethel song called “You make me brave.”  It’s a favourite from 2014 that has emboldened many hearts.  One line goes “You make me brave, you call me out beyond the shore into the waves.  I have heard you calling my name, I have heard the song of love that you sing, so I will let you draw me out beyond the shore, into your grace, your grace.”  (You make me Brave – Amanda Cook)

The root of the word courage is COR- the Latin word for heart.  In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant, “to speak one’s mind by telling all of one’s heart.”  Over time, this definition changed to become associated with heroic and brave deeds. And bravery is shown on the battlefield AND in your daily walk of faith.  I used to work as the PA and social media assistant to Canadian prophet Darren Canning. He shared a great example of courage recently:  He said, “One person in a war may seem like one piece of sand upon the seashore but one person filled with courage can speak to the wildest waves and they will have to obey.”  (Darren Canning, FB post October 10, 2019)

Everyday courage is also shown in your life wherever you are.  It means you don’t have to be a soldier or a missionary to have courage.  Every day acts include:  apologizing when you are wrong. It takes courage to admit when you are wrong. You also need courage to be yourself, especially in a culture that likes to imitate. Don’t copy or compare yourself with others.  Pastor Shawn Gabie often tells his congregation that “comparison is a calling killer.”  You also need to take responsibility.  You are where you are in life because of your past choices, although God’s grace, mercy and favour may have altered these circumstances.  Keep your commitments, and don’t be a drop-out.  Let go of the past and don’t let it hinder you anymore.  Listen deeply to your mentors and grow.

You may do all of these things and still need to grow further.  How can you boost your courage? Continue to pray and read faith-building scriptures on faith.  Stories of David and his mighty men are helpful.  I will share more this later.  You can also read stories and testimonies of people who have been given deep courage, like Heidi Baker, and missionaries who walk into warzones with no outward fear, although they experience many times where they must heavily lean on the Lord’s strength.  Otherwise, you can remind yourself that fear isn’t always helpful. It is a warning trigger, but beyond that, you don’t need to act on it.  I used to wear a giving key on a chain called FEARLESS.  It reminded me to keep standing or advancing in the areas in which I was called.  I always remember where a visiting speaker shared to the Catch the Fire congregation this gem:  it was that when we become comfortable in the Father’s love, we become FEARLESS in our calling.  It’s all about who is backing you, like Elisha who told his assistant to look at the angel army protecting them from a much smaller physical army. This is shown in 2 Kings 6:17:  “Then Elisha prayed, “O Lord, open his eyes and let him see!” The Lord opened the young man’s eyes, and when he looked up, he saw that the hillside around Elisha was filled with horses and chariots of fire.”  We need to open our eyes that the Lord is indeed with us.

Remember that you can advance in baby steps.  It’s also okay to stand where you are for a little while.  You can expand your comfort zone gradually.  If you are in a panic mode, remember to breathe.  You can even say to yourself, “STOP” and say, it’s OK.  I’ve done this on occasion when my heart was pounding.  Take a step back.  You may be looking too closely at your situation.  See it with new eyes, kind of like Elisha’s assistant. Ask Holy Spirit to help you. And begin to look to the future.  Ask yourself who you need to become. This is more of who you dream yourself to be, your best self.  Think of what God is doing in your heart to get you there.  And then, with prayer and direction from the Holy Spirit, take action.

Jon Bloom says, “Where does courage come from? How do you get it when you need it, when some fear towers over you and threatens you, and you feel like cowering and fleeing into some cave of protection? For an answer, let’s look at one of the most famous stories of all time in 1 Samuel chapter 17 — and one of the most misunderstood stories in the Bible.”  Nearly everyone knows the story of David and Goliath.

Over three thousand years ago, a massive man named Goliath of Gath stepped out of the Philistine army’s ranks, stationed in the Valley of Elah.  He taunted and defied not only Israel’s army, but also the God of Israel. For forty days he continued heaping shame, insults and likely curses on them. None dared to accept his fight-to-the-death, winner takes all challenge.  With each challenge, there was no one to accept, as they froze or retreated in fear.  Then a teenage Hebrew shepherd boy named David showed up in camp.  He brought lunch for his older brothers who were in Israel’s camp.  He personally heard the giant “pour out his scorn on the impotent” soldiers.  “David was indignant. So he took his shepherd’s sling, chose five smooth stones, hit Goliath on the forehead, and chopped off his head.” [Jon Bloom, Where Real Courage comes from, Desiring God, June 2015. https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/where-real-courage-comes-from]

Now David’s defeat of Goliath is not just a story of personal courage.  David was not like Rocky Bolboa in the Rocky films. He was an underdog, but not that kind.  He wasn’t necessarily a rebel fighter.  But his courage was empowered by something else.

But let’s look at the situation in context.  The Israelite army was looking at what was going on with only their physical eyes. Goliath was nine-feet tall and very strong.  He was a highly trained fighting machine that physically outclassed the Hebrews.  “Fighting Goliath looked like suicide, plain and simple.”  [Jon Bloom] David didn’t see it that way.  He looked through the eyes of faith.  Even though the soldiers had seen great feats, they were weak in faith at that moment.  Perhaps they forgot who they were and who God is. They were looking at Goliath’s size, and the physically impossible circumstances. They thought any challenger would end up as “bird food.” [Jon Bloom]

But David had deep confidence in God. He deeply believed in God’s promises and his power to fulfill them.  David wasn’t “self-confident, he was God-confident.”  Earlier in his story, the prophet Samuel anointed him as a future king of Israel. This was a promise. He went out to meet the Philistine giant knowing that God would give him victory over Goliath.  The victory would demonstrate God’s power and faithfulness, not David’s courage.  When David replied to the giant’s taunts and scorn, he didn’t show his own strength, but rather God’s.  This is what 1 Samuel 17:46-47 says: Today the Lord will conquer you, and I will kill you and cut off your head. And then I will give the dead bodies of your men to the birds and wild animals, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel! 47 And everyone assembled here will know that the Lord rescues his people, but not with sword and spear. This is the Lord’s battle, and he will give you to us!”

What’s the source of your courage?  “Real courage is always produced by faith. Courage is a derivative virtue.”   [Jon Bloom] For most Christians, when you lack courage, you ‘shrink back’ like the Hebrew army.  They may have been distracted by circumstances, or forgot about God’s promises.  All we see is our own weakness.  But look up.  It’s not about US!  All of us experience this fear. So did David. David is such a helpful example. He fueled his confidence and courage to face Goliath from God’s promises. But he also frequently felt fearful himself.  He also needed to encourage his soul again by remembering God’s promises. Just read the first 25 Psalms. It shows how often David battled fear and unbelief. Yet he always turned around the situation and declared that God was his hope and that he would trust him.  David was human.  Yet his gifting was to turn towards God, despite fear, and sometimes sin, and he knew how to repent.  He was declared a man after God’s own heart. 1 Samuel 13:14 says, “But now your kingdom must end, for the Lord has sought out a man after his own heart. The Lord has already appointed him to be the leader of his people, because you have not kept the Lord’s command.”  (This was in context to King Saul when he blew it).

Faith made David more than courageous.  It made him angry at Goliath’s taunts against God. And when no one defended God’s name, it made God look weak.  Jon Bloom says that “our fears are not primarily about us, even though they feel that way.  Our fears are primarily about God and his character.” [Jon Bloom]  They see God as weak, or worse, non-existent.  It’s the same today in popular culture: from Chris De Burgh’s song “Spanish Train,” where the devil cheats and beats Jesus at poker (who is “just doing his best,”) to the remote God in the song “From a distance” and the lack of God entirely in the song “Imagine.”

But as Christians, we don’t actually fight the people we deal with day to day.  We are not on a battle field with them. Even if they are gangsters, or unruly learners in our little cottage school. The kids always fight, to my dismay, but I continue to pray for breakthrough.  Ephesians 6:12 reminds us that we are not to battle with flesh and blood. We are to LOVE our human enemies.  Yes, gangsters, that means you.  Yes sangomas here in South Africa, that means you too.  Yes, religious people who only complain in person and on Facebook, that means you too.  We love you.  Jesus loves you. And to say that truth takes courage.  Our own Goliaths are not people, but the sin that entangles us, as well as the snares of the devil. But once you get free, just remember, if you don’t believe his lies, he has no hold over you.

It also takes great courage to share about yourself and of God’s love.  But you can share your story.  No one can counter act your story – because it’s about God’s work in you, not a philosophy that is debated.  Missionaries are courageous – just look at Heidi Baker, where she willingly confronts people who are evil, but in a way where it is clear that she is a mama pointing to a mighty God.  Just read her books, which are many.  There are so many beautiful treasures in there.

So why should we develop courage?  You may be facing an overwhelming situation.  At this time we are in that place. While we love being on the South African mission field, we were hampered by my journey of inflammatory breast cancer.  So I not only fought forces of darkness outside of me, but also the cancer that was inside me.  But I won’t ask why.  I trust that the Lord is working out this situation for his glory.  And twice the Holy Spirit has spoken to me about my healing in South Africa.  This was before the cancer showed up.  I thought he meant about other ailments, one of which is now in remission.  I choose to believe in his promise, as David did of God’s greatness.  God’s glory will be shown in me no matter what.  I know his strength and courage does, but that’s not mine.  It’s his.  Heidi Baker often shares the analogy of stepping on Jesus’ feet and going along for the ride.  I do the same, except I’m allowing him to carry me.  My weakness is plain to see, but the strength pouring out is all from God.  I can’t claim any of it, except as a precious gift from a loving God.   So we take courage, because God’s perfect power is shown in our weakness.  There is much more I can still share, as I have found while researching about courage, so next month we will journey through part two.

In the meantime, cling to Jesus, the author of your salvation.  He is your strength and your song. He gives me strength when I have none.  May he do the same for you.  Remember, he is with you, as he is with me. He never leaves you. 

Lord Jesus, thank you that you are always with us – through your Holy Spirit. You guide and comfort us, and carry us when we need to be carried.  You give us strength to confront evil, and the resilience to persevere in tough times.  You are our strength and our shield. Bless my friends who are listening with all that they really need.  In Jesus’ name.

If you’d like to hear an audio version of this article, please visit the Ways to Grow in God (WTGIG) podcast page on the coppleswesterncape.ca website (under the “Listen” drop-down menu).  Click here:  (https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/wtgig-podcasts.html) and scroll down to #64!  If you have been blessed by this article, please let us know!

Updates:  For those looking for news on my cancer journey, I am still receiving oncology visits in South Africa, and the awaited plastic surgery on the left side of my mastectomy scar has been postponed, since the surgeon was concerned about me being exposed to covid.    I am waiting on the surgeon for when it can be rescheduled.  He has generously waived the surgical fees, so we only need pay for the anesthetic (likely local) and the medical venue (a day hospital in Cape Town’s Panarama neighbourhood).

I had an excellent cancer post treatment appointment last month. There is no trace of cancer in my blood, although the high level of pain meds I receive does show.   The supplements however, have made a difference in recovery from the treatments as well as the cancer that was in my body.  Now we will continue to keep watch that the cancer doesn’t return.  I have extensive scans and blood work in July (pending a medical visa extension).  Tomorrow, I have a simple flush of my chemotherapy port, which I have chosen to keep for the time being.

I also receive MLD therapy, lymphedema treatments and physiotherapy to get me stronger for our eventual return to Canada (which was to be in May 2021, but it’s difficult to return so we will see if we can return in September). 

We did receive our first, allow us to stay until May 2021, but we are working to reapply for the extension this month.  According to Home Affairs, the wait can be up to 60 business days. That’s a long time without our passports, but we need to be patient and trust God and our lawyer during the process. 

We believe that the medical treatment here is excellent, although expensive, despite the rand-Canadian dollar exchange has helped keep costs almost 15 percent lower.  We have incurred significant medical debt, although kind people in Canada and around the world have helped us so far.  God bless each and every one of them.  But we still need help. Tony has significant medical bills as well for TB, eye surgery and other issues. Please click here for the medical campaign page to get more info: https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/medical-campaign.html.  I want to thank Teriro, who blessed us with a gift last month.  We weren’t expecting it when it came!  Most people who are led to give are friends, or friends of friends, so when friends we’ve not met yet respond, it’s very special!

We are still crowdfunding to cover the cancer treatments (as well as Tony’s TB treatments). If you feel led to contribute, please do so via our PayPal:  https://www.paypal.me/WaystogrowinGod

L-A’s colouring book:  If you are in South Africa, and would like to purchase one of L-A’s colouring books, they are available at OliveTree Bookshop in Mountain Mill Shopping Centre (near Pick n Pay), Worcester, Western Cape.  You can also buy them at LeRoux and Fourie Wineshop on R60 beside Cape Lime (between Nuy and Robertson).  Or you can order one (or more) printed for you through Takealot.com through this link:  https://www.takealot.com/colouring-with-jesus/PLID68586424

The Colouring with Jesus 2 is in the works – in translation mode into Afrikaans. After we return to Canada, we plan to republish the devotional colouring books into English-French.  Bless you and thank you for your support!

Laurie-Ann

Growing in God through our place of refuge

“Safe in Durham Cathedral” – Laurie-Ann Zachar Copple, October 2019

My name is Laurie-Ann, and I’m a missionary. During my mission travels, I have ministered with people in Northern Ireland, Pakistan, Canada and the USA.  I’ve also ministered in African countries like Kenya, Ghana, Sierra Leone, Mozambique, South Africa, Botswana and Namibia. But at this time, we live in the beautiful Western Cape of South Africa.

During our last article, we journeyed through renewing our minds.  Sometimes fears and old taunts that have been thrown at us can surface at times.   I call these playing the ‘old tapes’ from past experiences. Some of these experiences are from childhood, and others more recent. But they all play on each other until they are resolved.  The child inside us still remembers incidents with childhood bullies, or a throw-away line in anger from a parent. The child doesn’t understand, and these events and words can limit, wound, and sometimes paralyze us with fear. The words limit growing past the experiences that brought pain, and the person will continue to react to anything similar until the issue is dealt with.  Until the experience is resolved, it may continue to be a barrier for emotional and spiritual growth. 

The Apostle Paul wrote to the Romans that we need to renew our minds.  Romans 12:2 says:  “Don’t copy the behaviour and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good, pleasing and perfect.”  We need to, in a sense, have a mind transfusion – to get rid of all the bad stuff that would harm us that lodges in our memories. We need to be transformed.  We need to understand that we are loved and have been loved all throughout our lives. We have never been left alone.  Why do we specifically need to renew our mind?  Think of it as your mind being a computer.  When you go through computer maintenance, you need to run scan disk and defrag your hard drive.  You clean out the junk and empty the recycle bin.  But then you find other harmful things on your computer, so you clean those things out as well.  Otherwise you can’t run programmes properly.  The computer will be erratic because it’s trying to do too many things at once.  This is the same with us when we may try to do something that looks simple, but since our minds and hearts are full of junk, we can’t handle it and have a meltdown.  

Our mind is where we process info, thoughts and feelings.  It’s also the place where we make decisions and choose our actions through our will.  It is how we think that shapes our feelings and our behaviour.  It’s a process in cleaning out the junk in the computer systems in our minds, hearts and memories, but it is worth it.  In time, with God’s help through the Holy Spirit, you and I will change for the better.   Just be kind to yourself because this takes time.  Most good things do.  It takes time for good fruit to grow, but it’s worth it.  That fruit is a valuable symbol of how good things grow in our lives.  Refuges are also an important symbol to think about.

When we go through times where we may feel like the foundations of everything we know is challenged, we need a refuge.  When we have a storm, we aren’t out in the rain for very long. We go inside to be protected from the weather.  And then there are floods and earthquakes, where a house can’t necessarily protect you.  I don’t say this out of fear mongering, but out of having us consider where we take refuge and who we take refuge in.   Refuge is a powerful symbol.

This journey grows out of teaching Christian symbols to the kids we love in Legacy Relay. They have been learning about soaking prayer and drawing.  We do this with our teens in My Father’s House – but they already know many Christian symbols.  These children are only in grade one.  Our MasterPeace Academy and Legacy Relay learners learned about symbols slowly through their devotional times.  They know that Aslan in the Chronicles of Narnia is a symbol of Jesus, the Lion of the Tribe of Judah.  And Jesus is called the Lion of Judah, because that’s one of the ways that he appears in the Book of Revelation.

A refuge can be different things, but it comes down to this fact. To take refuge is to find a safe place.  You might take refuge under a bridge when it hails, or in a basement during a tornado.  Refuge comes from a French word meaning “to flee”, and in many cases, a refuge, or sanctuary, is  a place to flee to so you can get away from people or places that are unsafe [Google dictionary].  A women’s shelter fits this concept – to keep vulnerable women and children away from violent men who would want to harm them.  This is a desperate need here in South Africa, where so many women die from violent partners and ex-partners.

Some people who take refuge for protection and safety draw close to God as he walks with them.  Psalm 91 talks about protection by angels. Psalm 46, which was written by the sons of Korah, shares that “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.”  Psalm 34: 8 shares that we must “Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed (or happy) is the one who takes refuge in him.”  Taking refuge during times of trouble is something that not only keeps us safe, we also receive JOY and comfort.  We receive peace.

The Psalms are a wonderful place to turn to for comfort and refuge. The word refuge shows up 98 times in the Bible. 43 of those examples are in the Psalms, where most of the time, the referred refuge is of God. However, if you look at other translations, you can use the terms “put trust in,” “protection”, “stronghold,” and other safety terms.  Apparently the word for refuge, Hasah, calls our attention basically to sin and how it wrecks everything.  “When the Old Testament speaks of refuge, it is always in the context of a threat, something wrong or dangerous in the world. [But] sometimes [that] threat is physical as in seeking refuge from a rain storm, as in Isaiah 4:6. Or perhaps shade from hot sun in Judges 9:15. Protection from adversaries is a common theme, as in Psalm 61:3.  

The threat can also be spiritual or emotional, such as a refuge from shame, as shown in Psalm 31:1: “In you, Lord, I have taken refuge; let me never be put to shame; deliver me in your righteousness.”  The refuge can even protect from loneliness, as in Psalm 142:4: “Look and see, there is no one at my right hand; no one is concerned for me. I have no refuge; no one cares for my life.”  However, in all these examples, the Bible’s use of the word refuge reminds us that we live in a world wrecked by sin.  This is a world of dangers around us, and of brokenness inside us. We cannot avoid these realities, but we can seek shelter from them.  The authors at Bible Mesh share that “the word “refuge” also calls our attention to God’s power to save us from sin and its consequences. Many times, it [refers to] His ability to protect us from the dangers [I described.] God provides shelter in a storm. He gives vindication in the face of shame, and friendship in times of loneliness. But even more significantly, the Lord is our refuge in the Day of Judgment. Though He will bring a day where [sin is reckoned], he grants his people forgiveness and gives them refuge from his wrath. This is shared multiple times in the books of Nahum and Deuteronomy. Perhaps, the greatest need of all people is shelter from the horrible consequences of sin. Scripture reminds us that God offers such shelter. (paraphrase https://biblemesh.com/blog/refuge-in-the-psalms/)

The Bible also shares about places, or cities of refuge that were set up to protect people in trouble, or had done crimes in desperation.  Joshua 20:2-6 shares about why these places were set apart before the locations were chosen.  Here’s the passage: “Then the Lord said to Joshua: “Tell the Israelites to designate the cities of refuge, as I instructed you through Moses, so that anyone who kills a person accidentally and unintentionally may flee there and find protection from the avenger of blood. When they flee to one of these cities, they are to stand in the entrance of the city gate and state their case before the elders of that city. Then the elders are to admit the fugitive into their city and provide a place to live among them. If the avenger of blood comes in pursuit, the elders must not surrender the fugitive, because the fugitive killed their neighbor unintentionally and without malice aforethought. They are to stay in that city until they have stood trial before the assembly and until the death of the high priest who is serving at that time. Then they may go back to their own home in the town from which they fled.”  The places of refuge they set apart were six communities around the east and west of the Jordan River.

There are cities of refuge now, for example during the beginning of the migrant crisis from the Middle East.   Writer Mathilde Teheur learned about refugee-friendly cities in Europe. In some places, they had sanctuary and supportive citizens who wanted to build a more humane migration policy (at least until it was abused).  She said, that during “September 2015, the mayors of Barcelona, Lesbos, Lampedusa and Paris [created] a network of ‘refuge cities’ aiming to provide better reception conditions for migrants at local or municipal level. Though the declaration is not legally binding, Teheur believes it was a first step towards ensuring that both the wishes of local entities, and the vital role played by them, are taken into account in national debates on how migrants are received. (Mathilde Têcheur, Cities of Refuge in Europe, 25 July 2018, https://www.equaltimes.org/across-europe-cities-of-sanctuary#.XXvpeS4zbIU )  However, the tide seems to be turning against many migrants currently, perhaps because there were too many at once.  Also, some migrants are spoiling it for the others with violence and criminal acts. 

Michael Syder from Charisma News speaks about another kind of refuge – that of people getting away from broken down, fast-paced Western society to live a healthier lifestyle. He met a New York state man who intended to convert a hotel and surrounding facilities into a place of refuge that could potentially accommodate hundreds of people for an extended period of time. (Michael Snyder March 2016 – Charisma News, (https://www.charismanews.com/opinion/55513-why-people-are-creating-hundreds-of-cities-of-refuge-across-america)  He has also corresponded with other communities in Idaho and elsewhere in North America with a similar mind-set.  Others in South America, Australia, New Zealand and the Middle East are doing the same.  Every place of refuge looks different – from former hotels and schools, to RVs and tent-cities.  Synder said in these places, major community concerns remain: food, water, shelter, electrical power, and security.

Places of refuge were also common in early and medieval church history.  Roman pagan temples took in people who needed help.  This especially applied to runaway slaves.

The Early Church took notice and took in people as well.  The symbols of sanctuary and fortress developed later in church history. Even Martin Luther wrote “A Mighty Fortress is our God” in the late 1520’s to remind us that God doesn’t fail us and is greater than our circumstances.  Here is the first verse: ‘a mighty fortress is our God, A bulwark never failing: Our helper He, amid the flood of mortal ills prevailing. For still our ancient foe doth seek to work his woe; His craft and power are great, and armed with cruel hate, On earth is not his equal.” [Luther, wiki.]   Both refuge and fortress are defined as places of protection and defence.  Refuge is a place where one can have hope and or can put trust and confidence in that protection; whether it is fortified or not.  A fortress is a fortified place that sometimes shelters: a town, fort, castle, stronghold, and is for defence and security.  Our little gated retirement village in Worcester is like a fortress, rather than a refuge, but it’s nice when we find a place that can be both.  

The Church equivalent of the cities of refuge in Joshua 20 is reflected in the sanctuary of the English church (and elsewhere in medieval Europe). When people, usually the poor and downtrodden would steal or hurt someone, and it was either unintentional or out of poverty, they could run to the nearest cathedral, grab the sanctuary ring and claim sanctuary.  Sometimes this meant a longer arbitration through the church, which was either resolved, or the person would have to leave England. They would be shipped off to America or Australia.  They called this ‘transportation’ – the British way of getting rid of difficult common poor folk out of their country.  At one time it was to Ireland and France [Eric Grundhauser] and later, America and Australia.  Here’s Eric Grundhauser on what it was like to seek asylum in medieval England:  “So you are in 13th-century England, and you’ve been accused of, or maybe have actually committed, a murder. To be taken into custody and tried would likely result in execution, so you need to go to ground, fast. [All that you had to do, was to run] into a Christian church.

The right to sanctuary, as the tradition is called, is probably best known through the titular outcast of Victor Hugo’s The Hunchback of Notre Dame, who used the protective right to save his true love. But it actually dates all the way back to traditions from the ancient Greece and Rome, yet surprisingly survived (in a much changed form) into the 17th century. Taking refuge in these miraculous safe zones, though, was far more complicated and dangerous than most people think.” [Eric Grundhauser, What it was like to seek asylum in Medieval England, July 21, 2015 [https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/what-it-was-like-to-seek-asylum-in-medieval-england]

Professor Karl Shoemaker shares that early sanctuary examples of places of worship were knowns as examples of holy forgiveness.  He shares that “The earliest Christians were aware that pagan temples offered sanctuary for criminals, and they did not want to be shown up in their piety by their pagan rivals. Thus, criminals could be offered protection within Christian churches as well, with the added benefit that asylum seekers might be converted or offered a chance to repent.” [quoted from Grundhauser] Shoemaker explains that “as Christianity spread across Europe, sanctuary protections came along with it, supported by the church as well as the various crowns. Thanks to the precise and pervasive record-keeping of the English, their codified and standardized version of sanctuary procedure is the process best known today.] [quoted from Grundhauser]

 In order for asylum seekers to gain sanctuary, they only had to enter a church and wait for an appointed coroner of the crown to arrive.  The refugee was to confess the crime, and then was given the sanctuary of the church for a time, as a safe arbitration place.  In some cases, more specific action was required. One liturgical act was to ring a certain bell, perhaps sit on a special “frith-stool” (bench), or wrap their hand around a special door-knocker, as was the case at Durham Cathedral, and knock on the door.  I have seen that sanctuary ring, and held it.  I was not seeking sanctuary from the law, but I did seek the Lord’s touch in that very special place.

Shoemaker says during the early 17th century, “up to two-thirds of all the felonies were “resolved” in a sanctuary.” [quoted from Grundhauser] During this period all Christian churches offered sanctuary within their walls, although 22 particular churches were known safe places, including Durhum Cathedral and Westminster Abbey. Unfortunately, fugitives had to forfeit their possessions, money and land to the crown before they left the country.  This left them vulnerable in the places that they emigrated into.  Shoemaker believes that when English law evolved in the late 16th century, it was the ultimate downfall of the church asylum. Before this, sanctuary was understood as an act of kindness, forgiveness, and piety on the part of both Christianity and the crown. But public feeling grew, which gave the belief that criminals took advantage of this option to avoid punishment.  They began to believe that sanctuary’s penitent treatment of fugitives seemed only to reward criminal acts by allowing asylum seekers to avoid the official penalty. By 1624, standard sanctuary laws were abolished, and fugitives were no safer in a church than they were in the streets. [paraphrased from Grundhauser]

One of my favourite places to meet God is in a place called Lindisfarne, Holy Island.  It is a tidal island in north eastern England, south of Berwick-on-Tweed.  It’s not far from Scotland.  It’s a place where Irish missionary monks, under Aidan of Iona set up a mission centre. He was similar in temperament to Francis of Assisi, and became known as the apostle of northern England.  He loved to relate on the same level as the common folk, so he never rode a horse, even though King Oswald gave him one.  Other monks followed for years.  Many pilgrims would walk over to the island during low tide.  However, even now during pilgrim walks, you must be very careful when you cross.  It is the same with the road that links to the mainland.  If you are caught when the fast moving tide comes in, your car can be flooded, and you must seek shelter.  There are refuge boxes along the trail and one on the road just for that purpose.  The threat of water is real if you are not careful.  Those refuge boxes, are a real symbol of refuge to me. That whole island, is like a ‘thin place’ where I can hear Holy Spirit’s whisper as easily as if I were having coffee with Jesus across from me. I feel safe on that island, especially in two of its churches that I attended. I also loved staying with the people at the Open Gate Christian guest house.

Earlier I quoted from the first verse of “A Mighty Fortress is our God.”  There are other songs about refuge that come to mind.  A favourite of ours by English composer and playwright Roger Jones is “God is our shelter and strength.”  It’s the song Tony and I sang while we were barefoot pilgrims along the mud between the shore of mainland Northumberland and Holy Island.  There is also the children’s favourite, “The name of the Lord is a strong tower.”  But one of my current favourites is “You are my hiding place.”

Earlier I mentioned places of refuge: cities in the Bible and communities today.  Those who take refuge are refugees. Even Jesus and his parents were refugees, when Joseph was warned by an angel to take baby Jesus to a place of safety away from King Herod, who was trying to kill him.  He narrowly escaped the slaughter in Bethlehem. Matthew 2:13-14 relates the story:  When the [Magi] had gone, an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream. “Get up,” he said, “take the child and his mother and escape to Egypt. Stay there until I tell you, for Herod is going to search for the child to kill him.” 14 So he got up, took the child and his mother during the night and left for Egypt, 15 where he stayed until the death of Herod. And so was fulfilled what the Lord had said through the prophet: “Out of Egypt I called my son.”[c]

There have been refugees in many ages, although they are called by different names. Some biblical names for refugees include strangers, sojourners and foreigners. Strangers and foreigners refer to anyone from another ethnic groups who have chosen to live in Israel.  Expats may be included in this list.  Tony and I might be considered one of these while we are here in South Africa.   The book of Ruth is about one such ‘foreigner.’  Sojourners are those who temporarily live in Israel or who are travelling through.  So in this, the Biblical world view would call us sojourners in South Africa.  Other sojourners would include: displaced persons from war and disaster and refugees.  Emigrants who stay longer would include: economic migrants, immigrants, asylum seekers fleeing from persecution, and even stateless persons.  Visitors are just that: people seeking education, a holiday or a sabbatical.

The Bible is clear in how God’s people are to treat these “strangers and foreigners.”  Even Matthew 25:35 shares a reward for those who treat these people well.  He ways to the sheep who follow his commands to reach out to specific people, including ‘strangers,’  “I was a stranger and you invited me in.”  World Vision’s Denise Koenig shares that “Middle Eastern cultures are famous for their hospitality.  For example (in Genesis 18), Abraham invited the angelic visitors into his tent and provided a lavish meal for them. Even so, strangers among the different tribal groups were looked at with suspicion, often conned or taken advantage of, and not treated well, especially if they were poor.  God’s instructions in the Old Testament were counter cultural.  Jesus (also) follows the Old Testament pattern and takes it a step further by saving that how we treat strangers indicates whether we are his followers.  We are to invite the stranger in if we are his disciples.  Foreigners or refugees are not to be oppressed.” [Denise Koenig, June 19, 2019, What does the Bible say about refugees? https://www.worldvision.org/refugees-news-stories/what-does-bible-say-about-refugees]  Exodus 23:9 reminds us and the Jewish people to “Not oppress a foreigner; you yourselves know how it feels to be foreigners, because you were foreigners in Egypt.”

The Old Testament law has more in how to treat the foreigner:  the cities of refuge as I mentioned earlier, and farmer’s gleanings for the poor and the farmer are great examples.  The gleanings were mentioned in Leviticus 23:22. It says, “when you harvest the crops of your land, do not harvest the grain along the edges of your fields, and do not pick up what the harvesters drop. Leave it for the poor and the foreigners living among you. I am the Lord your God.” Remember that Ruth herself gleaned in the fields, as a widow, a stranger, and a kinswoman through her dead husband.

Strangers are also to be included in festivals and celebrations. The Passover celebration is mentioned in Deuteronomy 16, but later in chapter 26:12, they are especially noted in the year of tithing to the poor.  “Every third year you must offer a special tithe of your crops. In this year of the special tithe you must give your tithes to the Levites, foreigners, orphans, and widows, so that they will have enough to eat in your towns.”  This indeed shows that God is generous, and gives us the provision to be generous also.  Notice the needs of the gleaning and special tithe. These refer to helping displaced people with food.  As Christians, we also are to treat the stranger with kindness.  We ourselves didn’t realize the kindness of God chased us until we came to faith.  Perhaps we are the very ones to reach out in God’s kindness to these people and offer them not only refuge, but to point to the one who GIVES refuge.   The author of Hebrews reminds us to open our hearts in Hebrews 13:1-2: Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers for by doing that some have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.”  The Apostle Peter adds to this command by saying in 1 Peter 1:17, that we must “live out your time as foreigners here with reverent [godly] fear.”  “Think of how graciously God treats us, the foreigners living in his world. His kindness to us can guide our thoughts and actions towards those living as strangers among us.” [Denise Koenig, June 19, 2019, What does the Bible say about refugees? https://www.worldvision.org/refugees-news-stories/what-does-bible-say-about-refugees]  

And so, we who are no longer strangers to God, can be used as representatives of God’s refuge.  It’s like we’re invited to be a part of a post-modern underground railroad, like the days when slaves were rescued from the southern US.  Some mission minded people, like Cal Bombay of 100 Huntley Street HAVE gone to Sudan to rescue those sold into slavery.  He was bringing refuge and redemption to these slaves.  Ministries like Arkenstone in the Greater Toronto area and Iris Cambodia work against human trafficking.  They also offer refuge.  Homeless shelters such as Sanctuary retreat in downtown Toronto and Cornerstone in Chicago offer the same to those on the streets. There are many more that do the same – but not all take these in overnight.

These refuges are for certain circumstances.  But you may be listening to me while you sit safely in your home.  You may be in physical safety, but your heart is in turmoil like a stormy sea.  You may have been hit by a heavy loss recently, or found out some news that absolutely shocked you.  You probably didn’t believe the words you heard and said, ‘no, that’s not me’ and yet you knew in your heart it was.  During times like that, will you look up at Jesus?  As you look up into his face, he brings you peace, through your shock, denial, and the emotions that come later.  

Tony and I returned from our home visit on July 10th 2019.  Shortly after I began to feel pain and tinglings in my left breast, and I thought it was odd.  I’d never felt this before. I happened to ask the Holy Spirit, “what is that?”  The whisper I heard in my spiritual ears was “it’s cancer.”  I was in shock. I didn’t think anything – it didn’t even register until much later.  A few days after that I began having pain in the nipple and I went to our doctor. He wasn’t available, but a wonderful female doctor helped me.  She helped diagnose another condition I had that masked the issue.  But she was clearly worried about what was going on with my breast. We tried antibiotics, thinking it was post-menopausal mastitis.  After it didn’t respond to treatment twice, I was booked into the local hospital under antibiotic drip and introduced to a wonderful surgeon who cared for me. He expected to find lumps that he could remove, after imaging.  He didn’t find them, but some cancers don’t have lumps.  One week later, he took six large biopsies.  During the procedure I was nervous and asked the Holy Spirit to fill the room.  He came. When the procedure began, I was laughing at the sound of the machine, thinking that the doctor was stapling posters to my chest. I was given humour and peace.

After the mammogram and most lab work was completed, I was diagnosed with stage 3 inflammatory breast cancer, which was staged later as 3B. When the surgeon phoned with the news, I had peace.  I already suspected due to that whisper a few weeks earlier, and a hint that the doctor said we should rule out the possibility of a rare form of cancer.  By then I knew what to research.  In my mind’s eye, I could clearly see that I was being held by Jesus, close to his chest.  When I would raise my head, the Holy Spirit would push my face back into Jesus’ chest.  I remained there for over a year and a half. Now my husband is carried in his own illness journey of TB. I let him continue to carry me.  Will you let him carry you?  Psalm 46 offers God to be our refuge.  Do you want to be safe in him?  You only need ask him. He’s listening.  

There is a special poem that shows Jesus carrying a pilgrim in distress.  The authorship is disputed, but the origin is still divine.   If you haven’t heard this poem, give it a listen:  [A] pilgrim arrived in heaven and God said to him, “Would you like to see where you’ve come from?”  When the pilgrim responded that he would, God unfolded the story of his whole life and he saw footprints from the cradle to the grave.  Only there were not only the footprints of the pilgrim, but another set of prints alongside. The pilgrim said, “I see my footprints, but whose are those?” And the Lord said, “Those are My footprints. I was with you all the time.”

Then they came to a dark, discouraging valley and the pilgrim said, “I see only one set of footprints through that valley. I was so discouraged. You were not there with me. It was just as I thought–I was so all alone!” Then the Lord said, “Oh, but I was there. I was with you the whole time. You see, those are MY footprints. I carried you all through that valley.”[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Footprints_(poem)]

Think on how he carries us.  There is room for you in his arms.  Lord, Thank you that you continue to carry me, and we will beat this cancer together.  I put my trust in you.  I pray for my friends who are listening and ask that you reach out to them as well.  It may not be cancer, but it may be bad news.  You are there for them.  You are their refuge. You are their strength.  And as they abide in you, they will be made strong.  In Jesus’ name,  amen. 

I also share my own version of being carried in my song lyrics, “Thank you Jesus:”

Thank you Jesus 
by Laurie-Ann Copple 
 
Lord, you are near, not far
You hold all things together
Spinning planets with the stars
It’s a dance you set forever
 
And even though you hold all things
You noticed I was falling
You promised you would carry me
When the cancer came a calling.
 
Chorus:   Lord, I want to thank you
You brought me back to life
My healing is a foretaste
Under heaven’s loving knife.
 
You carried me close to your chest
As we went through death’s dark shade
This journey was for my best
In your face, my troubles fade.
 
Chorus:   Lord, I want to thank you
You brought me back to life
My healing is a foretaste
Under heaven’s loving knife.

If you’d like to hear an audio version of this article, please visit the Ways to Grow in God (WTGIG) podcast page on the coppleswesterncape.ca website (under the “Listen” drop-down menu).  Click here:  (https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/wtgig-podcasts.html) and scroll down to #64!  If you have been blessed by this article, please let us know!

Updates:  For those looking for news on my cancer journey, I am still receiving oncology visits, and the awaited plastic surgery on the left side of my mastectomy scar has been postponed, since the surgeon was concerned about me being exposed to covid.    I did have an excellent cancer post treatment appointment a few days ago. There is no trace of cancer in my blood, although the high level of pain meds I receive does show.   The supplements however, have made a difference in recovery from the treatments as well as the cancer that was in my body.  Now we will continue to keep watch that the cancer doesn’t return.  I have extensive scans and blood work in July (pending a medical visa extension).

I also receive MLD therapy, lymphedema treatments and physiotherapy to get me stronger for our eventual return to Canada (which was to be in May 2021, but it’s difficult to return so we will see if we can return in September). 

We did receive our first, allow us to stay until May 2021, but we must reapply for the extension in March.  According to Home Affairs, the wait can be up to 60 business days. That’s a long time without our passports, but we need to be patient and trust God and our lawyer during the process. 

We believe that the medical treatment here is excellent, although expensive, despite the rand-Canadian dollar exchange has helped keep costs almost 15 percent lower.  We have incurred significant medical debt, although kind people in Canada and around the world have helped us so far.  God bless each and every one of them.  But we still need help. Tony has significant medical bills as well for TB, eye surgery and other issues. Please click here for the medical campaign page to get more info: https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/medical-campaign.htmlI want to thank Teriro, who blessed us with a gift last month.  We weren’t expecting it when it came!

 We are still crowdfunding to cover the cancer treatments (as well as Tony’s TB treatments). If you feel led to contribute, please do so via our PayPal:  https://www.paypal.me/WaystogrowinGod

L-A’s colouring book:  If you are in South Africa, and would like to purchase one of L-A’s colouring books, they are available at OliveTree Bookshop in Mountain Mill Shopping Centre (near Pick n Pay), Worcester, Western Cape.  You can also buy them at LeRoux and Fourie Wineshop on R60 beside Cape Lime (between Nuy and Robertson).  Or you can order one (or more) printed for you through Takealot.com through this link:  https://www.takealot.com/colouring-with-jesus/PLID68586424

The Colouring with Jesus 2 is in the works – in translation mode. Bless you and thank you for your support!

Laurie-Ann

Growing in God through Renewing our minds (refresh, renew and don’t recycle the garbage in your mind)

“A girl’s praise” by Laurie-Ann Zachar Copple, March 2020

My name is Laurie-Ann, and I’m a missionary. During my mission travels, I have ministered with people in Northern Ireland, Pakistan, Canada and the USA.  I’ve also ministered in African countries like Kenya, Ghana, Sierra Leone, Mozambique, South Africa, Botswana and Namibia. But at this time, we live in the beautiful Western Cape of South Africa.

During our last article, we journeyed through growing in kindness.  Kindness can be hard to define initially, but it is something all of us desperately need.  It’s a flavour of love. It’s loving kindness, like the Old Testament Hebrew word “chesed.”  It’s also goodness in action, as shown in the New Testament. It’s an active virtue that God seeds into our hearts directly through the Holy Spirit and through the kindness of others.  The kindnesses of God, or T.K.O.G as we Copples call it, are mercies that God gives us every day. Some are small, and others are supernaturally big.  The kindness of God leads us to repentance, since it melts our frozen or stony hearts. Ezekiel 36:26 shares that God “will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart. God uses moments and acts of kindness to reach us in ways that make us feel deeply noticed, loved and cared for.  We aren’t alone.

Once we realize that we aren’t alone, we know that God is there for us.  He helps us to navigate difficult territory and bad news.  Sometimes fears and old taunts that have been thrown at us can surface at these times.   I call these playing the ‘old tapes’ from past experiences. Some of these experiences are from childhood, and others more recent. But they all play on each other until they are resolved.  The child inside us still remembers incidents with childhood bullies, or a throw-away line in anger from a parent. The child doesn’t understand, and these events and words can limit, wound, and sometimes paralyze us with fear. The words limit growing past the experiences that brought pain, and the person will continue to react to anything similar until the issue is dealt with.  Until the experience is resolved, it may continue to be a barrier for emotional and spiritual growth.  Sometimes inner vows are made in moments of pain that only made the pain worse.  These are vows like “I’ll never do this, or I’ll never allow that.” 

When I was ten years old, I unofficially changed my name from Laurie-Ann to Laurie.  I told myself that from then on, Laurie-Ann was dead, but that Laurie would survive.  I would become a new girl, since my parents and I were also moving from one neighbourhood to another.  We moved neighbourhoods partially due to childhood bullies and to start over in a new area.  But the name change made things worse, and I had even more emotional pain.  My original name of Laurie-Ann actually means Victory through Grace, whereas Laurie means victory.  When I dropped the hyphen and Ann, I actually dropped the promise of grace in my name.  I strived in my own strength to please others, and became a people pleaser.  I didn’t grow stronger at all, but more enmeshed in pain and in a prison of lies.  I needed to be set free, and to renew my way of thinking.  The Holy Spirit helps us do this.

The Apostle Paul wrote to the Romans that we need to renew our minds.  Romans 12:2 tells us to “not be confirmed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what is the will of God – what is good, acceptable and perfect.”   I had tried to please other people, but a person cannot please God until their mind is renewed.  Romans 8: 5-8 says, “those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit.  So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace.  The sinful nature is always hostile to God. It never did obey God’s laws, and it never will.  That’s why those who are still under the control of their sinful nature can never please God.”    My sinful nature was to try to push down my experiences, instead of bring them to God for healing.  I didn’t yet know God at that time, but even many Christians also strive in their own strength. They don’t bring their painful experiences to him for healing. And then they make wrong promises to themselves that only bring death and pain.  That road may lead to addiction, broken relationships and more pain down the road.  But we don’t know that at the time.  We’re only trying to protect ourselves.  We need to be transformed. 

A person whose mind is not renewed by the Holy Spirit cannot receive all that God has designed and planned for their life. They cannot reach their inheritance and destiny.  They and we need to be transformed. What is transformation?  It’s a “complete change of character of something or someone, so that they are improved.” [Shellie Counts, “Renewing the Mind” Foundations for Counselling Ministry] A good example of this kind of transformation is in the Francine Rivers book “Redeeming Love,” where a broken girl who is forced into prostitution is loved and transformed into the woman God intended.  It was the love of God and the love of her husband who melted her frozen heart. This dismantled all the lies that held her pain in place.  But then she had to learn to think in new ways. She had to remember that she was no longer a prostitute, but she was now a beloved child of God.  Biblical transformation is the key that unlocks how we need to be.  This is a process where your old self can pass away.  The Apostle Paul writes about this in Ephesians 4:21-24: “ Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him,  throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception.  Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes.  Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.”  Both Gideon in Judges chapters 6 – 7, and David in 1 Samuel 16 – 17 had to undergo a major mind shift so that they could come into their inheritance.  

Why do we specifically need to renew our mind?  Think of it as your mind being a computer.  When you go through computer maintenance, you need to run scan disk and defrag your hard drive.  You clean out the junk and empty the recycle bin.  But then you find other harmful things on your computer, so you to clean those things out as well.  Otherwise you can’t run programmes properly.  The computer will be erratic because it’s trying to do too many things at once.  This is the same with us when we may try to do something that looks simple, but since our minds and hearts are full of junk, we can’t handle it and have a meltdown.   

Our mind is where we process info, thoughts and feelings.  It’s also the place where we make decisions and choose our actions through our will.  It is how we think that shapes our feelings and our behaviour.  When I went to seminary, I studied for a major in counselling.  We learned many approaches, but the one that worked best with me was cognitive therapy.  That’s basically working with how you think.  How you think actually helps shape how you feel.  And your heart may be locked away by the lies that you believe.   Francis Frangipane wrote the book The Three Battlegrounds. In this book, he reminds us that the blood of Jesus Christ was spilled at the place called Golgotha, which means the “place of the skull.” [Robert S Miller, Spiritual survival for Cross-Cultural Workers, p 222]  Ironically, a fierce battle is still raging in the ‘place of the skull,’ which is the realm of our thoughts.  Think back to a time when you were so upset that your mind was racing.  It feels like your mind is taken over by a tornado.  There is no peace.   I’ve had this happen quite a few times in the midst of stress of university studies, emotional flare-ups and rejection issues.  When we are hurting, everything seems to be a big storm around us, when it is not as big as we think.  Lance Wallnau believes that we need to “allow God to change and adjust your perception filters to see as God does.   This was what Jesus meant [when he talked] about wine-skins. Mark 2:22 is about changing wine-skins!  Is YOUR mind-skin old and rigid or is it new and flexible?  Here’s the scripture:  “no one puts new wine into old wineskins. For the wine would burst the wineskins. The wine and the skins would both be lost. New wine calls for new wineskins.”  So just like new wine needs new wine-skins, so the new way of thinking, requires cleaning out all the old, wrong ways of thinking. It requires a new start.

One of the best people to teach you about re-wiring your thought patterns takes you beyond inner healing and cognitive therapy to use neurolinguistic programming.  Her name is Caroline Leaf.  I saw her speak for two days when I was at a leadership conference at one of my Ottawa churches in June 2015.  She takes cognitive therapy and renewing your mind to a new level.  She comes at it not only from a spiritual perspective, but of looking at the wiring of the brain itself.   I remember she shared how negative thought patterns and complaining essentially re-wires your synapses in a harmful way, which can lead to illness. When you think positively on a specific struggle, over at least 21 days, the synapsis begins to repair itself. Changing your thinking is essential to detox your brain.  If you consciously control your thought-life, you do not let thoughts rampage through your mind.  [https://drleaf.com › about › toxic-thoughts]   Caroline says that “every moment of every day, you are changing your brain with your thoughts in a positive or negative direction. Every time you think and choose, you cause structural change in your brain.  Your thoughts impact your spirit, soul and body.” [https://21daybraindetox.com/] This is one of the reasons why critically ill cancer patients are urged to think positively and choose life when they are battling through their illness.  I was told this personally by an oncologist counsellor at CapeGate, and a nurse who sat by my side after I had port-insertion surgery in late August 2019.  Thinking positively with and choosing to focus on God with hope and faith is a huge part of the battle.

I used to struggle with old messages and lies told to me in haste by bullies, relatives and teachers.  Each week we have in South Africa brings us discoveries of this kind of damage done to the children we love.  As a child, Tony was told by his father that if he didn’t work hard at his studies, or in life, he would end up as a road sweeper.   His dad used harsh words to get Tony to be a hard working responsible boy, likely at a cost of performance orientation.  We need to replace the lies and misbeliefs we believe with the truth.  Jesus told us in John 8:32, that “you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.” There is however a process, as we uproot each and every one of these lies.  I remember being told by our pastor friend Mark Redner, that the only thing that can entrap us is a lie that the devil uses to hold us in bondage.  Once we are free, he has no power over us.  It’s true. All the fear, doubt and confusion are smoke and mirrors.  Don’t believe it.  Unfortunately, many times we do, since lies are filled up with just enough truth to make you believe it. William Backus and Marie Chapman wrote a book called Telling yourself the Truth.  [Backus and Chapman, Telling Yourself the Truth (Minnesota: Bethany House Publishers, 1980), pp. 15-22.]  They label our negative thought patterns as ‘misbeliefs.’ Misbeliefs generally appear to be true to the one who is repeating them to themselves. They are hard to decypher because most of the time there is an element of truth in them. We have also said them to ourselves for years. These misbeliefs are even more of a challenge to decypher, because we live in societies that daily feed us misbeliefs through media. Some counselors who are not trained in this therapy may not even recognize these misbeliefs when they are confronted with them. Some examples of misbeliefs are, “no one cares about me so it doesn’t matter anyway”, “Nobody wants to be around me”, “I can’t do anything right”, “I must please everyone”. If you believe these types of statements, it is important to look deeper at them.  Are they really true?  No they are not! They are full of error.

This is important because what we think determines how we feel and behave. Let me give you two examples. Say that you tell yourself your father-in-law is a horrible man that is good for nothing. Then you will believe what you tell yourself. As you accept these words, your feelings and actions will follow. This may cause you to feel anxious around him and treat him more as an enemy than as family member. Or maybe you have an employer who is difficult to work with and you tell yourself that they hate you. As this thought persists, it won’t be long before you find it hard to continue showing up for work. More than likely, your father-in-law or boss gave you some reason to tell yourself these things, so you feel justified with your beliefs about them. That is why it makes it hard for us to see our own misbeliefs.

We often want to put blame on someone or something else. We may say, “if my husband were easier to get along with, life would be easier”, or “my church is full of hypocrites and that is the problem,” or “my family is a disappointment”. We learn from Proverbs 23:7, which says in the New King James Version, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”  What we think determines how we will feel. This is so important for us to understand. We can stop getting angry, upset or misunderstanding someone in one fell swoop.  If we think that a certain person is out to get us, we will respond in anger, defensiveness or fear.  But it may not be the truth!

Consider these misbeliefs and the truth: Someone feels they are a failure at everything, including their marriage.  This is extremely limiting and feels like a smothering blanket.  Here’s the truth in perspective: Their marriage is struggling but they are deeply loved by their family and God.  Or in the case of work: I hate my job because it is terrible.  Instead, the truth would be: This is not my favorite job but it’s just for now. I can function well until I find better job.   

I used to harbour mis-beliefs about doctors, since I met quite a few arrogant ones who didn’t listen to me or want to know my thoughts on the matter.  I have met some who are kind, competent and helpful in Canada.  But I’ve been absolutely blessed by most or all of the doctors who I’ve met in South Africa.  Actually, I had been deeply blessed by the doctors on my cancer journey.  We also became good friends with an emergency room doctor that I clicked with immediately in a social setting. He was even in the recovery room after I had my mastectomy.  How comforting that was!  I had to overcome my misbelief, so I could receive the kindness and care of these wonderful people.

Angela Duval shares that our first step to overcome these misbeliefs is to realize that they are LIES that bring us down. [Angela Duval, “ Life of Freedom – Changing the Way You Think Part 1” https://walkingworthyjourney.org/walking-it-out/life-freedom-changing/]   We need to remove these lies from our thinking. This takes time and practice. Caroline Leaf says it takes 21 days to overcome one lie and replace it with truth. So be patient. Over time, we can become more skilled at recognizing the lies. Then, we must replace the lies with what is actually true. This on what is good! How do we know what is true? We need to read scripture, so we can learn what God’s truths are. “For example, it does us no good to say, “no one cares about me,” when we know that scripture teaches us that the God of this universe loves us with an everlasting love. Listen to Jeremiah 31:3: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” If you say to yourself, “I can’t do anything right,” remind yourself of Philippians 4:13: I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” When you learn to replace false beliefs with the truth, you will experience a new kind of joy and freedom in your life. I believe that God desires us to live a life of freedom, and the truth has freeing power within it.

Other times our misbeliefs are the result any painful life circumstance. Trauma can hide all kinds of reactions and lies in our memories. So, we must evaluate where these beliefs came from and see whether or not they are true. As we discover those misbeliefs, we must verify whether they are true or false. In Philippians 4:8 we find the key to gauge the validity of our thinking. In it the apostle Paul shows how important it is where our mind chooses to focus. Notice that he is not suggesting a good idea;  this is a command.  He writes:  Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” [Elodia Flynn L.C.S.W. Founder, Walking Worthy and Angela Duval M.Ed. https://walkingworthyjourney.org/walking-it-out/life-freedom-changing-part-2/

Do your problematic lies follow the lines of Paul’s command?  Probably not. So follow four steps in weeding out the lies in your minds and hearts:   One: decide that you won’t be the victim of your thoughts, and make a conscious choice to disregard them as lies.  Two: evaluate your thoughts and beliefs using the standard I shared earlier from Philippians 4. Write in your journal which thoughts are healthy and helpful. Write which ones are lovely and praiseworthy and which are not.  Three: give your thoughts and beliefs to God.  Ask him to help change your thought patterns.  Jesus came that we might have abundant life.   Four: understand that changing how you think helps you change how you react to life’s circumstances.  It also makes it easier to receive God’s peace, comfort and hope.   Listen to Philippians 4:7:  “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”    Elodia Flynn shares that “peace does not come from putting ourselves down, but rather it comes from learning to have peace within ourselves.  It comes from having an understanding of God’s Word and choosing to believe it no matter what life and experience throw at us.” [Elodia Flynn L.C.S.W. Founder, Walking Worthy and Angela Duval M.Ed. https://walkingworthyjourney.org/walking-it-out/life-freedom-changing-part-2/

Edgar Iraheta goes beyond renewing the mind to the heart – since both are affected by what we believe.  Both are impacted by lies, and we may make judgements that make our heart condition worse. We will dive into that pearl of wisdom another time.  In the meantime, renewing our minds is an essential start to transform us by rooting out lies, and becoming more and more in tune with the mind of Christ.  This is part of our inheritance.  Remember the Apostle Paul’s words I mentioned earlier.  Here is another version of Romans 12:2:  “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good, pleasing and perfect.”

Lord, I ask you to conform our thoughts and minds more into your mind of Christ.  We don’t always realize where the lies and misbeliefs are embedded in our memories.  Help us to identify them, and weed them out.  Help us to replace them with your truth.  And as we do, fill us with your love, grace and hope. Fill us with your peace, as you go beyond our minds, and into our hearts.  We thank you for carrying us through difficult times, and walking beside us in good times. Lord, thank you for all your kindness to us.  In Jesus’ name.  Amen.

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Updates:  For those looking for news on my cancer journey, I am still receiving oncology visits, and the awaited plastic surgery on the left side of my mastectomy scar has been postponed, since the surgeon was concerned about me being exposed to covid.  

I also receive MLD therapy, lymphedema treatments and physiotherapy to get me stronger for our eventual return to Canada. 

Meanwhile, we are still waiting on our medical visas, which would allow us to stay until May 2021.  According to Home Affairs, the wait can be up to 60 business days. That’s a long time without our passports, but we need to be patient and trust God and our lawyer during the process. 

We believe that the medical treatment here is excellent, although expensive, despite the rand-Canadian dollar exchange has helped keep costs almost 15 percent lower.  We have incurred significant medical debt, although kind people in Canada and around the world have helped us so far.  God bless each and every one of them.  But we still need help. Tony has significant medical bills as well for TB, eye surgery and other issues. Please click here for the medical campaign page to get more info: https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/medical-campaign.html.

 We are still crowdfunding to cover the cancer treatments (as well as Tony’s TB treatments). If you feel led to contribute, please do so via our PayPal:  https://www.paypal.me/WaystogrowinGod

L-A’s colouring book:  If you are in South Africa, and would like to purchase one of L-A’s colouring books, they are available at OliveTree Bookshop in Mountain Mill Shopping Centre (near Pick n Pay), Worcester, Western Cape.  You can also buy them at LeRoux and Fourie Wineshop on R60 beside Cape Lime (between Nuy and Robertson).  Or you can order one (or more) printed for you through Takealot.com through this link:  https://www.takealot.com/colouring-with-jesus/PLID68586424

Bless you and thank you for your support!

Laurie-Ann

Growing in God through Kindness

My name is Laurie-Ann, and I’m a missionary. During my mission travels, I have ministered with people in Northern Ireland, Pakistan, Canada and the USA.  I’ve also ministered in African countries like Kenya, Ghana, Sierra Leone, Mozambique, South Africa, Botswana and Namibia. But at this time, we live in the beautiful Western Cape of South Africa.

During our last article, we journeyed through establishing legacy.  Legacy applies to families, relationships, and investing in others. It also applies to passing on skills and education.  Legacy in a spiritual sense is about discipleship.  It’s not in creating other versions of yourself like a franchise, but in training up leaders in their callings.  While we have different gifts, we all have the same ministry – that of passing on God’s love in some way.  And Legacy is also something that Tony and I have in mind for leaving something behind in Worcester that will last long after we leave South Africa.  We also offer these Ways to Grow in God podcasts as part of our legacy to you.  Legacy is also a gift – which is ultimately based in the kindness of those who have invested in us, and also the kindness of God.  Let’s journey through the field of kindness.  

We need kindness.  Even the Twelfth Doctor in Doctor Who always said, “Always try to be nice, and never fail to be kind.”  [https://www.radiotimes.com/news/tv/2017-12-26/did-you-spot-all-the-doctor-who-references-in-peter-capaldis-regeneration-speech/ ] He’s right.  But what is kindness?   Kindness is often hard to define unless you use synonyms. When you Google it, the answer comes up as “the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate.”  It also comes up as decency. Yet the definition goes beyond that to include tenderness, good-will, affection, warmth, concern, care, thoughtfulness, altruism, hospitality, generosity and graciousness.

Christian Cheong believes that “we all need kindness. It is a language the dumb can speak, the deaf can hear, and the blind can see. Kindness is far more than loving people. It is loving people more than they deserve.  “Kindness is ‘going the extra mile’, it is grace put into action.”  https://www.sermoncentral.com/sermons/the-kindness-of-god-christian-cheong-sermon-on-grace-136864 Stephen Wittmer believes that “Kindness is underrated. [Some people] equate it with being nice or pleasant, as though it’s mainly about smiling, getting along, and not ruffling feathers. It seems a rather mundane virtue. ”- [https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/kindness-changes-everything But kindness is NOT mundane.  Kindness deeply touches hearts.  It can melt past emotional defences and anger to soften a stone-cold heart.  The Old Testament ties kindness and mercy into one word: that is ‘Chesed.’   This word comes up 35 times in the Psalms and in 1 Chronicles; within the context of worship and decrees.  How often have you heard this tune, “Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good. His love endures forever.” 

That love is not just any love – it’s loving KINDNESS.  It’s also mercy!  When you look up 1 Chronicles 16:34 in the NLT version, it says: “Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good! His faithful love endures forever.”  In other versions, faithful love comes up as: mercy, love, loyal love, grace, and loving kindness.  My Old Testament professor in Tyndale Seminary taught us the importance of God’s loving kindness. Some misinformed people think the God of the Old Testament is mean and vindictive, while Jesus is (more) loving. However, The Father is also love. Jesus told Philip that he who has seen the son has seen the Father.   They have the same character.  John 14:9 states: “ Jesus replied, “Have I been with you all this time, Philip, and yet you still don’t know who I am? Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father! So why are you asking me to show him to you?” This loving kindness is something that can be counted on. This is like God’s faithfulness like a father, because He is THE Father.

So, this love, this loving kindness has been here all along.  Just as love searches out the beloved, so kindness does the same.  Kindness is an active virtue. We as believers try to act in God’s kindness.  Bible scholar David Huttar believes that “human imitation of God’s kindness does not come naturally. In fact, ultimately no one is kind. Psalm 14:3 and Romans 3:12 have the same message, that “all have turned away, all have become corrupt; there is no one who does good, not even one.” Kindness can be a consistent part of the believer’s experience because it is a fruit of the Holy Spirit.  [David Huttar, https://www.biblestudytools.com/dictionary/kindness/]  Kindness is supernatural, as shown in Galatians 5:22-23. Notice that “the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

Kindness also made the list of the Apostle Paul’s fruit in the midst of suffering.  Stephen Wittmer says, Paul proved to the Corinthian church that he was a true apostle. He did this by detailing three things.  These were the trials he endured for the sake of the gospel, the inner grace God gave him despite his suffering, and the God-produced fruit in his life. Read 2 Corinthians 6:1-13.  In the midst of all kinds of suffering, verse 6 shows that Paul had “purity, understanding, patience and kindness.”  Wittmer shares Paul’s defense this way:  “You want proof I’m an apostle?” he said, in effect. “Okay, here it is: I’m kind.”  https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/kindness-changes-everything Kindness within the context of being wronged, is similar to Jesus’ command to love our enemies.  True kindness is Spirit-produced. It’s a supernaturally generous turning of our hearts toward other people. This means we do this even when the other doesn’t deserve it or doesn’t love us in return. God himself is kind in this way.  God’s kindness is meant to lead us to repentance which means if we haven’t yet turned to him, we are not yet his friends.  Romans 2:4 says, “Don’t you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant, and patient God is with you? Does this mean nothing to you? Can’t you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin?”

When Tony and I were preparing to go back to Canada for our home visit, I prayed about the topics we would share.  We wanted not to just have a show and tell of slides of the teens and children. We’re always happy to share stories, but sometimes there is a specific message for the people who come to see us.  We minister as much to them as we do on our South African mission field.   

Prior to our arrival, I woke up from a nap while thinking about the “kindness of God.”  Part of this was tied to the Romans 2 scripture, but the kindness of God leads to more than repentance.  Kindness leads us closer to God, because he softens our hearts.  This is also tied to the loving kindness and care that was mentioned in the Old Testament.  Loving kindness is about deep care and compassion.  It’s tied to mercy because we don’t deserve it. 

Sometimes kindness is to those who don’t love you at all. Proverbs 25: 21-22 tells us that, “If your enemies are hungry, give them food to eat. If they are thirsty, give them water to drink. You will heap burning coals of shame on their heads, and the Lord will reward you.”  I always wondered what that scripture meant. It has to do with extending kindness on God’s behalf, even to those who have been mean to you. They may re-think their meanness.  While some wrongly interpret the coals would actually burn, there is a meaning behind the instruction.  In the time when Proverbs were being documented for posterity by Solomon, people heated their homes and cooked with coal or wood fire. Jeremy Myers from redeeminggod.com shares sometimes if your fire went out, you would go ask a neighbour for a coal to relight the fire. He interprets this scripture as, if the fire of your enemy goes out, and they come asking for a coal to relight their fire, to be generous.  “Instead of turning them away or giving just one [coal], we should be  extravagantly generous. How? You must keep one coal for yourself, and give all the rest of the burning coals to our enemy.” [Jeremy Myers  https://redeeminggod.com/heap-burning-coals-on-your-enemies/]

This example gives us a lot to ponder. King David was kind to his friend Jonathan, and even more to his surviving son Mephibosheth.  While other royals killed the last remaining children of their enemies, he did not.  Jonathan’s son was the grandson of King Saul.  Saul was the same leader who ruthlessly tried to have David killed multiple times. But David was intentionally kind.   2 Samuel 9:3 says, “The king then asked him, “Is anyone still alive from Saul’s family? If so, I want to show God’s kindness to them.”  Four verses later, we see that David’s kindness was not a short-term thing.  King David says to him, “you shall eat bread at my table continually.” Later verses show David meant this promise. This kindness was a commitment. This is also a reflection of God’s loving kindness to us.

What happens when you are kind?  It stops people in their tracks. It also gets at your own heart. Sometimes it even exposes your sin for God to take away.  Loving Kindness in the Old Testament may reflect mercy.  In the New Testament, the Greek word for kindness means “goodness in action.”  Kindness and goodness are kissing cousins, and are two of the nine fruit of the Spirit. When God’s goodness is prompted to us, it feels like tenderness and compassion.  [http://www.christianmessenger.org/kindnessofgod.htm] I often speak about stopping for the one, or divine appointments.  What happens during those special moments?  They are acts of deep kindness. This kindness is received not only from the person who stops, but also directly from the Holy Spirit.  They are like a spiritual love letter, and you feel deeply noticed. You’re not invisible. God has searched for you and found you. Stephen Witmer says that “kindness is no small thing. It yields marvelous fruit both in our lives and the lives of those around us.”  Proverbs 21:21 says that “whoever pursues righteousness and kindness will find life, righteousness, and honor.” We open ourselves to the supernatural work of the Holy Spirit when we ask him to produce in us kind hearts that overflow through kind lips. [Stephen Witmer https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/kindness-changes-everything

We need to ask God for his kindness before we give kindness to others.  While people can do kind gestures for others, real kindness flows from compassion.  Human kindness falls short of that.  What can the kindness of God do for us?  It opens our eyes to God’s care for us.

Tony and I have an expression that we’ve come to embody since before we arrived in South Africa.  We say that the kindness of God chases us down.  God wants to be kind to us.  He draws us to him like a tender lover, even though we sometimes run from Him.  We have so many examples of what we call T-K-O-G – the kindness of God – in our lives.  Heidi Baker said recently at an Australian conference that “God wants to open your eyes and open your heart. When your eyes are closed, you can only feed your family of four.”  She was referring to the first time that the Holy Spirit stretched a pot of chili and rice to feed not only her family, but over 300 children.  An experience like this is eye-opening.  So were ours, even if they weren’t as dramatic.   We had a T.K.O.G moment in the speedy process of our South African visa. Normally it takes 8 weeks. We had a call to pick up ours in 24 hours.   We were led on where to live – and found our gated retirement village house is perfect in size for ministry, and safe to live in.  It was available right when our guest house lodgings were finished.   We were given renters to live in our Ottawa condo at just the right time for us to leave. Only one couple was interested, but that’s all we needed.  Their rent enables us to pay for our rent in South Africa.

We were led to our local church and bi-weekly connect group through expat YWAM missionaries that we had met through advisors. And we found that our connect group met in our prearranged guest house. This was a great kindness.  We were drawn into a loving church family who, while Afrikaans, made provision for translation stations, and have been there for us in prayer and encouragement ever since we arrived. They even prayed for us while we were in Canada.  We had another T.K.O.G connection when we were invited to become teachers, and I was reminded of an impression I received four years earlier.  The image showed me teaching art to African children – and I was asked to teach art.  We had similar experiences for many of our other ministry involvements, which are too many to mention. But in every case we have experienced sheer pleasure in ministering. That is also T.K.O.G.  We have been lovingly guided on every step.  We were even given expert and kind care by multiple doctors, from GPs, gynecologists, surgeons, urologists, cardiologist, oncologist and other specialists.  Each has been wonderful in hearing us out, and doing the very best they can. We don’t always get that in Canada.  We even had a confirmed diagnosis from an ailment that I suffer from within months, when the average is seven years.   

And while we haven’t had the miracles of stretching food like Heidi Baker, we’ve had our own resources stretch when we need it.  We’ve had entrepreneurial ideas for art, resources and colouring books. We’ve had special connections and networks, and have been blessed by breaks and getaways just when we need them. Even when I was enduring my first and worst flare-up, Tony was an amazing nurse.  I didn’t understand it at the time, but I experienced the kindness of God through his love and service.  Another T.K.O.G was when my parents gifted us with the cost of our rental car on our home visit.  All of these gifts and more have been manifestations of the kindness of God.  His kindness and compassion are to provide for us, guide us, and give us joy every day. He’s opened our eyes to see the smallest everyday kindnesses as well as the larger ones. So even when we’re not in good health, we have peace because we know our issues will be resolved. This certainly was the case during my inflammatory breast cancer journey from August 2019 until recently in December 2020.  Even though this was a horrific season (super-imposed on a glorious mission season) in having a deadly disease, my husband and I were carried by the grace of God through the treatments.  A shower of crowd-funding fell at my feet, since our insurance company refused to no longer cover me. We were given the very best of care, and there were so many tangible manifestations of God’s kindnesses extended to us. 

Even after we attempted to return to Canada for surgery in April 2020, we were locked down tight due to severe covid-19 restrictions all over the world.  God’s kindness at that time became emergency mastectomy (where the surgeon had excellent margins for the cancer, which he called a miracle), and following treatments of radiation, lymphedema massage, compression therapy and Herceptin injections, which ended in November 2020.  We were kept away from covid-19 far more where we were than if we had returned to Canada.  We are now waiting on medical visas, to carry us into May 2021, for a spring return to Canada. We trust that the visa acceptance would be another kindness of God.   What about the cancer journey, you may ask.  How is that the kindness of God?  Well, cancer is NOT the kindness of God.  However, God was kind in the midst of it.  While he was healing me of the cancer through medical professionals, he was also working on other things – including my heart, the discovery of undiagnosed lymphedema in my legs.  None of the pain and tears are wasted.

Is God kind to you also?  I would believe that he is; but just ask God to help you notice the ways He is kind to you and to those around you.   God’s kindness may also affect others in particular ways. God shows His kindness through the ongoing provision described in Acts 14:17: “He has shown kindness by giving you rain from heaven and crops in their seasons.”
God’s kindness is part of His nature. It’s easy to overlook the everyday expressions of His kindness, but if you intentionally look for them, you become more aware of God’s love.

As we think on God’s kindness, we discover four things;  these are: that God IS kind, we choose to be kind, that kindness has a flavour, and that we can pass on that kindness to others.  It’s just like paying it forward.  Being kind is a choice. You make choices every day; some big and some small. Think about all the choices you’ve made in the last hour. These may be what food to eat first at dinner, where to sit while reading your Bible, and who to share compliments with; those are all choices. I believe that God wants you to choose to be kind.  Boaz was kind with Ruth, as she gleaned from his field.  Sometimes kindness is a choice to share what you have with someone in need. Other times, it’s a decision to encourage someone with a sincere compliment.  When you do, you grow as you actively practice being kind.  Remember Matthew chapter 25, when Jesus compared the sheep and the goats.  The sheep were kind, the goats were not.

Kindness also has a flavour, and it is sweet. Sweet words are like honey to the soul. The words we say to others make a difference. Words can be sour, or they can be sweet. They can hurt feelings, or they can repair relationships. Words can build people up or tear people down. You need to choose your words carefully because they are powerful. The apostle Paul urges believers In 1 Thessalonians 5:11 to “encourage one another and build each other up.” When you choose kind words, you’re giving others a taste of God’s kindness, and that brings Him honour.  It also honours them.

Divine Kindness is essential to be reflected in our human experience.  Both the books of Hosea and Matthew note that expressing kindness to others is more important than religious rituals. We are to love kindness. We are to love kindness and mercy.  Hosea 6:6-8 remind us that if we really want to please God, burnt offerings, deep sacrifices and other offerings are not what God really wants.  Verse 8 gets right to the point. “No, O people, the Lord has told you what is good, and this is what he requires of you:  to do what is right, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God.” In other words, to be kind.  There are many other scriptures that confirm this, before we even examine the nine fruit of the Spirit.  

What are some ways you can show kindness to those around you every day?  Could you let God use your loving touch and words to encourage others with kindness?   Part of this is addressed in the Iris way of “stopping for the one.”  You can also intentionally be kind to everyone, in the style of Steve Sjogren, who wrote the book Conspiracy of Kindness. While this is a gentle book on low risk, high grace evangelism, being kind does more than bring people to faith.  It also brings healing and deepens relationship.   Kind deeds, and kind words create “phone wires’ for sensitively transmitting love into people’s hearts. The Kindness of God does that with us – either directly through the Holy Spirit, or through other people. That heart melt helps bring a wave of emotional healing and good things to come.  Don’t close your heart to it, and don’t shut down if someone rejects it.  Even a little kindness is a great blessing.

The Apostle Paul experienced the kindness of God when after he encountered Jesus, he was cared for by some Damascus Christians. He was accepted.  The power of this acceptance confirmed his direct experience with Jesus.  It proved to him that the love of Jesus is real.  People come to faith when they realise God’s kindness – either directly through the Holy Spirit, or through those who can represent God.  We can represent God when we are filled with kindness and compassion. Both are from him.  Ask him to fill you with both, since he really wants to do that.  God loves to bless his children with kindness – just look at all the acts of kindness he’s done for us.  And we pass this on to those we love and serve.  We let the overflow go to others.  How?  Go to him and ask him to fill you, and open your eyes to those you would miss.

The kindness of God opens our eyes to others in special moments.  Steve Sjogren shares that kindness includes the art of noticing people.  Most people are lonely. [Steve Sjogren, The Conspiracy of Kindness p 35]  This includes our neighbours.  Jesus asked a lawyer who had challenged his authority by asking him the greatest commandment.  When Jesus answered him correctly, he offered deeper insight into the second commandment – that of loving your neighbour.  Your neighbour is the person right in front of you with a need in their life. [Steve Sjogren, The Conspiracy of Kindness p 86]  The kindness is in noticing them, and not expecting anything in return.  Sjogren shares that “we are by nature completely selfish. But when Christ comes in, something elemental changes. [Early Christians were known for] their generosity towards others.” [Steve Sjogren, The Conspiracy of Kindness p 80]  That generosity – one of the flavours of kindness – breaks the hardness and fear in your own heart as you reach out to bless someone else. 

Don’t be afraid to be kind – we have opportunity to sow the seeds of kindness every day.  And as we do, we’re not doing this out of the desire to gain influence or power, but in the pure joy of sowing.  There is a law of reaping what we sow. Galatians 6:7-10 shares that we should not be be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant.” This works for good and bad.  If it is to “live to please the Spirit, [you] will harvest everlasting life from the Spirit. Let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. Therefore, whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone.”

Lord, thank you for  T.K.O.G’s – you’ve given us so many. You’ve blessed us here on our mission field in South Africa, in family, church family and ministry family.  You are giving us kindness and blessings every day, whether we know you yet or not.  I ask that your kindness with melt hearts so they turn to you.   Melt hearts so they can also bless each other through your kindness.  I ask that you be praised for being so faithful.  Help us to reach out to others with your kindness.  Your kindness leads us to repentance, and that’s a good thing.  It leads us closer to you.  In Jesus’ name.  Amen.

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Updates:  For those looking for news on my cancer journey, I am still receiving oncology visits, and I am awaiting plastic surgery on the left side of my mastectomy scar (on January 12th). We have been given favour from the plastic surgeon who is waiving his surgical fees!  We are waiting on my cardiologist for the echocardiogram results to be sent to us, so the anesthetist can feel safe about sedating me.  We find this surprising, since I had two surgeries with general anesthetic, including the first (chemo port insertion) surgery right before the echocardiogram was done.  I also receive MLD therapy, lymphedema treatments and physiotherapy to get me stronger for our eventual return to Canada. 

Meanwhile, we are still waiting on our medical visas, which would allow us to stay six months longer in South Africa.  According to Home Affairs, the wait can be up to 60 business days. That’s a long time without our passports, but we need to be patient and trust God and our lawyer during the process.  

We believe that the medical treatment here is excellent, although expensive, despite the rand-Canadian dollar exchange has helped keep costs almost 15 – 20 percent lower.  We have incurred significant medical debt, although kind people in Canada and around the world have helped us so far.  God bless each and every one of them.  But we still need help. Please click here for the medical campaign page to get more info: https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/medical-campaign.html.

 We are still crowdfunding to cover the cancer treatments (as well as Tony’s TB treatments). If you feel led to contribute, please do so via our PayPal:  https://www.paypal.me/WaystogrowinGod

L-A’s colouring book:  If you are in South Africa, and would like to purchase one of L-A’s colouring books, they are available at OliveTree Bookshop in Mountain Mill Shopping Centre (near Pick n Pay), Worcester, Western Cape.  You can also buy them at LeRoux and Fourie Wineshop on R60 beside Cape Lime (between Nuy and Robertson).  Or you can order one (or more) printed for you through Takealot.com through this link:  https://www.takealot.com/colouring-with-jesus/PLID68586424

Bless you and thank you for your support!  We also wish you a blessed and happy Christmas!

Laurie-Ann

Growing in God through establishing legacy

“The Bridegroom Awaits” by Laurie-Ann Zachar Copple, March 2020.

My name is Laurie-Ann, and I’m a missionary. During my mission travels, I have ministered with people in Northern Ireland, Pakistan, Canada and the USA.  I’ve also ministered in African countries like Kenya, Ghana, Sierra Leone, Mozambique, South Africa and Botswana. But at this time, we live in the beautiful Western Cape of South Africa.

During our last article, we journeyed through finding family.  Many of us come from broken families: with absent fathers, frazzled mothers and confusing boundaries.  Many parents are just trying to survive, whether they’re in South Africa or in Canada.  If people can’t find a sense of family and safety, they will try to find it elsewhere.  This can be through like-minded people, gangs and people who aren’t safe at all.  But God sets the lonely in families.  It’s a promise in Psalm 68.   

These families are set in place by God to bring healing to the fatherless, confused and broken people.  We are healed through godly relationships, and need the love, support and guidance that a community group can bring.  These can be through small church groups, and mentors that are brought into our lives. Some of them become even closer than mentors. They in a sense become second parents.  Real family is a safe place where you can be yourself.  True family sticks together.  You grow within a family that loves you to life.

Legacy is something that family at its best leaves as a blessing for later generations.  Some of this is financial.  Tony’s learned much from a South African organization called Generational Inheritance Group.  They operate from a biblical principle learned in Proverbs 3:22, that encourages planning family finances in a three-generation model.  Instead of just providing for themselves, and sometimes their children, it’s about building something that lasts for generations.  The whole family needs to be involved, and after a while, the extended family.  These principles can even be taught to struggling township folk and working poor to get beyond living paycheque to paycheque, or worse, handout to handout, for a lifetime.  You can read more in Jasper Cloete’s book “Legacy,” which we serialize from time to time on CWCP Worcester Reports.

Legacy is also something that Tony and I have in mind for leaving something behind in Worcester that will last long after we leave South Africa.  We are only two people, with limited Afrikaans. We teach, we love children and are involved in different after school kids’ clubs, as well as a morning Legacy Relay ministry.  We tried to minister to as many Avian Park children as we could on Monday afternoons.  Yet more and more children came – some came to learn about Jesus, some to sing, but others for the food. There were too many to manage.  They were way too loud for our borrowed library space, so we were eventually asked to leave.  We didn’t know what to do, but asked God for help.  Jan Buchanan, leader of My Father’s House ministry, had used The Mailbox Club materials in the past, so we contacted them and were delighted when they offered to give an introductory training in our home to explain their curriculum and the way they minister to kids.  We were advised that we should split the children into small groups of no more than ten.  We needed to train up teens who would lead small Bible studies with the younger children.  Six girls initially volunteered to be trained, and since then we added two more.

What we’ve found is that we’ve invested time, love, training and discipleship with these teen girls. In some ways we are like their second parents. Legacy involves family and children.  Yet these girls are growing up. They are taking a hand in ministering to children and are gaining confidence that they also can make a difference.  While each girl is uniquely themselves, they represent Jesus AND us. They are part of our legacy – in reaching one or more Worcester township children, ten kids at a time.  Not too long ago I had wondered if we were doing the right thing with these girls. Some days are hard – after all, they are teens. They push boundaries, test our limits, but know ultimately that we love them. They grow. We grow.   One of our Canadian intercessors is named Peter.  He is very prophetic and speaks into our lives at just the right time.  He had told us before we arrived in Worcester that there would be times when we felt that what we would be doing, is tiny. This would be despite having a full schedule.  Yet, we were to concentrate on these girls, as well as depositing in a few others. God would use these specific girls to make a difference in their own communities.   Peter reminded us later that while the teens are one of the hardest ministries, it’s the one with the most eternal significance.  We would minister into the girls, but also inherit the fruit of the children they would love.  It’s like a stone thrown into water.  We create the ripples, but with the enthusiasm they are gaining the girls, will continue on after we’ve left South Africa, spawning new clubs as they develop new leaders from their clubs.

Legacy is also something that is fostered within the Iris movement.  Mentors are called Mama and Papa – for example, Mama Heidi and Papa Rolland Baker.  Mama Pamela and Papa Tony Maxwell are in charge of the Harvest Mission Schools that used to be in Pemba, Mozambique, and now travel to several locations.  These schools specialize in training missionaries where a high percent of alumni become long-term within that movement.   Mentorship and legacy go hand in hand.  When Heidi and Rolland speak in the first world at different conferences, they don’t bring up the topic of money – unless there is a specific emergency relief need.  Their focus is on connecting people to their destiny calling.  Many of these callings are to be missionaries – if not forever, than at least for a time.  This too, is about legacy.

We met many wonderful teachers during our Harvest School in 2016. We had teachers from all over the globe – Canadians like Stacey Campbell, Americans like my Iris papa Brian Britton, Matt Sorger, Jason Lee Jones and other Irisers like Will Hart. There were also Europeans like Matteus Van der Steen and Georgian Banov, and as well as Africans like Surpresa Sithole and regional Mozambican leaders.  Different schools had other distinctive leaders, but all were special with a different mix of cultures, experiences and deep teaching.   One couple that blessed me was Jim and Pat Banks.  Both have a legacy of training people to become spiritual parents, as well as acting like wise, loving mentors to the young. Both were heavily booked up for in-depth counselling sessions from things that would arise during intense learning, spiritual warfare and living in close quarters with other young people.   Jim taught an afternoon session, that both Tony and I attended, on making the last part of your life count.  He spoke a lot on legacy, mentorship and letting the next generations stand on our shoulders.  This contradicts the wrong thinking that the sons and daughters of successful men and women often express.  They proudly declare that they don’t want to be seen as carrying on excellence developed by their parents, but want to do something that they create independently.  This destroys legacy, and is actually self-aggrandisement.    

I had a chance to read one of Jim’s books in Kindle format.  This is the easiest format for me since it doesn’t require me to fill up a bookshelf that I may have to take back with me to Canada. The name of Jim’s book is One Calling, One Ministry: A Couples Guide for Finding Your Calling.   This title grabbed at me, since Tony and I may have had the shared ministries of the Alpha Course, prison ministry and radio since the early days of our marriage, but this was not a full calling together.  While we aren’t joined at the hip in everything, we are now far more in step with each other in South Africa than we ever were.  We share being spiritual parents to township teens.  We share loving on township kids, even if we use our different skills.  We share our internet radio ministry.  We support each other in the divergent ministries, such as finance, bookkeeping, art, and teaching different topics.  And Tony is amazing at pastoral care.   Where is the legacy in this?  Our legacy is in God using what we have in our hands to bless others.  We share reproducible skills.  I’ll go back to that concept a bit later.

Jim Banks shares that legacy is an ultimate ministry objective.  He says, “when you think about it for a moment, legacy had to be the bottom line for Adam and Eve.  God had the same goal for them on earth as their personal assignment; to reproduce after their own kind.  They were perfectly equipped to do that both physically and spiritually.  The Garden of Eden was certainly large enough to require more than one care taker.  Having no other help, they were going to have to raise their own, a tradition that every rural farming family has carried on faithfully. “

The Lord caused the yet-to-be-named Elijah-Elisha principle of mentor multiplication to be in effect as a natural foundational element of society even before anyone thought about naming it. What did they need to learn?  What did they need to pass on?  This was not only true from the work of their hands, but with their relationship with God.”

There is a natural way in the parent-child relationship that should be the natural order of all relationships.  Parents don’t want their children to suffer the consequences of the same mistakes they made.  We want them to have a better life than we did. We want them to be wiser, better educated and able to make better decisions than we did.  “They only way to make that happen is to teach them, train them and give them the benefit of our acquired knowledge.  That’s what family members do for one another.  That’s what supervisors should be doing for the employees under them. In religious terms, we call that discipleship.”

In the west, there is a tugging away from learning from earlier generations.  Post-modern society is more independent and extremely mobile.  Jim notes that “very few people live in the same area as their parents or grandparents.  Consequently, grandchildren are seldom raised around their grandparents, which robs them of another source of connection, emotional support and earned wisdom.“

Unfortunately, this narcissistic society has made it all about “us” and short term returns on investment.  Jim says that “legacy is only something we think about in terms of inheritances and plastics recycling.  As we consider our lives and our personal ministry, one of its components has to be legacy; what kind of mark will it leave on the lives of those we encounter? Think about that for a moment. What would happen if there were ten unbroken generations of Elijah-Elisha level mentoring accomplished in a single family?  With the anointing doubling through each of ten generations, a man or woman would be walking in 512 times whatever level the first generation walked in. Now you know why the enemy is after every parental relationship to try and destroy it.”

When trust in parents and authority erodes, these parents can lose the platform of mentoring and discipling their own kids. I was very fortunate to have parents who taught me some skills.  I remember my dad teaching me how to tie my shoes, and to tell time, and there were many other things.  He also is good at drawing and I learned some of that from him. My mom taught me some cooking skills, that I decided to surpass, simply because I wanted to do so.   Tony learned reading, writing, arithmetic, and about engineering, classical art and music history from his Father.  This is about culture and practical things.  I also taught my sister about art when she was little, and found she has quite an eye for colour and composition. 

Since we were already primed to pass on our skills, as well as our faith to Worcester’s children, we were recently approached by our pharmacist Carica and her husband Louis Le Grange.  They had an inspiration for some of the residents of our retirement village to teach skills to the children in one of the local primary schools.  Some other residents took up the challenge and brought their stories, knitting, crocheting and other crafts to the learners.  Tony and I were among the first of the group.  We went in as if we were starting a kids’ club and shared children’s songs about Jesus, a little science, and some art. They got to colour some of my colouring sheets, and recently began to draw their own inspired work while listening to soft worship music.  This is the same type of music that we play before and after our CWCP Worcester Reports broadcasts. 

Louis and Carica’s dream was for the children to not miss out on skills and topics that aren’t taught in schools anymore.  Art and music are often topics that are cut out of curricula due to costs of materials and time.  Crafts and stories are other things that are missing from teacher’s plans. These happen to be skills that many of the Afrikaaner seniors have. This is a win-win situation, where the seniors are feeling useful and worthy – they have so much to give.  And the children are hungry for love, for touch and to learn.  We are thankful for the two teachers we’ve encountered. They are willing to work with us, as we give them a heads up on what we feel inspired to share, and they let us know what they feel the kids need.  They are learning with us, as their academic knowledge is being blended into something beautiful in this pilot project.  We trust that some of these kids are receiving something special in learning that we can all learn from each other.  And so, this too is legacy.  In legacy, nothing is wasted, and the kids grow from experience, rather than re-inventing themselves.  These kids can learn and know who they are!  They can learn their identity in Jesus!  They can learn and grow as being part of the Rainbow Nation together.   Part of South Africa’s legacy is a heritage of different cultures.  This proudly includes many African tribes, as well as the English and Afrikaaner heritage.  It also includes those of Cape Malay-Khok-koi heritage.   Legacy includes history.  Legacy includes mentoring, legacy includes family.   What mark would you like to leave on posterity?  Rather than try to leave a monument that may crumble into dust, leave a mark of love on those you encounter.  Make them stronger people.  This is exactly what South Africa needs.  It’s what every country needs.  Making a difference also gives us deep satisfaction as we fulfill destiny callings to be mamas and papas. 

There is one more legacy gift that Tony and I have left to many – and that’s these Worcester Reports programmes.  We podcast these shows, as well as my Ways to Grow in God devotionals.  While we had weekly broadcasts, I also post a written version of the devotionals here on my devotional website, waystogrowinGod.org.  We’ve always done this without asking for funds.  We trust God for those.  There are people all over the world who have either come to faith in Jesus Christ or grown in the faith they have.  For this, we are thankful.  This is an intentional legacy that we pass on to you.

Lord, thank you that we can leave a lasting legacy in you.  You are the same God – of yesterday, today and forever.  You know the people who have lived before us  – help us to learn from their victories and their mistakes.  Help us to learn from each other, and gain strength.  But even more important, help us to learn more from you about sharing what we have in our hands.  If our hands seem empty, they really are NOT.  You filled our hearts with love and our minds with wisdom.  Help us to pass this on and mentor others.  Thank you for your wisdom that calls at the gates, and that ultimately, Jesus, you are that wisdom.  In Jesus’ name, Amen.

If you’d like to hear an audio version of this article, please visit the Ways to Grow in God (WTGIG) podcast page on the coppleswesterncape.ca website (under the “Listen” drop-down menu). Click here:  (https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/wtgig-podcasts.html) and scroll down to #60!  If you have been blessed by this article, please let us know!

Updates:  For those looking for news on my cancer journey, I am finished the expensive Herceptin injections!  I only need to have my chemotherapy port flushed once every three months.  I have decided to keep the chemo port for now. I continue MLD therapy, lymphedema treatments and physiotherapy to get me stronger for our eventual return to Canada.   We are seeking quotes on a small surgery to L-A’s mastectomy scar, whether it’s done by a plastic surgeon or her regular surgeon. This is to ease care of L-A’s mastectomy scars. If it is done by a plastic surgeon, we may lessen the lymphedema swelling in the surgical area.  

Meanwhile, we are waiting on our medical visas, which would allow us to stay six months longer in South Africa.  According to Home Affairs, the wait can be up to 60 business days. That’s a long time without our passports, but we need to be patient and trust God and our lawyer during the process.  We believe that the medical treatment here is excellent, although expensive, despite the rand-Canadian dollar exchange has helped keep costs almost 15 – 20 percent lower.  We have incurred significant medical debt, although kind people in Canada and around the world have helped us so far.  God bless each and every one of them.  But we still need help. Please click here for the medical campaign page to get more info: https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/medical-campaign.html.

We are still crowdfunding to cover the cancer treatments (as well as Tony’s TB treatments). If you feel led to contribute, please do so via our PayPal:  https://www.paypal.me/WaystogrowinGod

L-A’s colouring book:  If you are in South Africa, and would like to purchase one of L-A’s colouring books, they are available at OliveTree Bookshop in Mountain Mill Shopping Centre (near Pick n Pay), Worcester, Western Cape.  You can also buy them at LeRoux and Fourie Wineshop on R60 beside Cape Lime (between Nuy and Robertson).  Or you can order one (or more) printed for you through Takealot.com through this link:  https://www.takealot.com/colouring-with-jesus/PLID68586424

Bless you and thank you for your support!

Laurie-Ann

 

Growing in God through finding family

“Jesus in our School” by Laurie-Ann Zachar Copple, 2019.

My name is Laurie-Ann, and I’m a missionary. During my mission travels, I have ministered with people in Northern Ireland, Pakistan, Canada and the USA.  I’ve also ministered in African countries like Kenya, Ghana, Sierra Leone, Mozambique, South Africa, Botswana and Namibia. But at this time, we live in the beautiful Western Cape of South Africa.

During my last article, we journeyed through forgiveness.  We learned through the story of Joseph that forgiveness is a process; and it is a choice.  Sometimes we need to forgive those who hurt us more than once.  It’s important to keep our hearts soft, and not full of bitterness.  When we give God the person who has hurt us, we give him the right to deal out justice.  Sometimes his justice turns to mercy, as it did when Stephen the martyr forgave those who stoned him. This includes Saul of Tarsus, who looked after the persecutors’ cloaks.  Joseph showed discretion in dealing with his brothers’ sin against him.  Since he did not openly share the transgression, it showed that he deeply forgave. This discretion allowed the family pain to be dealt with without his Egyptian colleagues getting involved. It saved face.   We also learned through Corrie ten Boom’s story, that when you forgive your enemies, it brings special grace from the Lord, indeed.  It took a miracle of grace inside her heart to forgive a concentration camp guard who was cruel to her family.  But she trusted the Lord. He brought healing to her heart, and likely to that of her former enemy.  God has a wonderful way of turning former enemies into family in Christ.  He did this with Corrie ten Boom.  He did this with Nate Saint’s family, after missionaries Nate Saint and Jim Eliott were killed by South American Aucas.  Later on, the killers came to faith in Jesus Christ.  One of the redeemed killers even baptized Nate’s son.  That’s forgiveness.  That’s a sign of real Christian family.    We’re going to explore how we can grow in family.

A healthy family is a real blessing.  Many families are very dysfunctional.  Some are controlling, and others enmeshed.  My own family lacked boundaries in some areas of their lives, and there was much confusion.  Many families lack a real sense of having fathers, since they would be absent in some way.  Some dads would be working and be always away from the family.  Others may be addicted and demanding, or expecting their children to perform well at all they do, and yet others not caring at all.  They may be there in person, but they aren’t there in their hearts.  Their children can tell.  I went through a lot of inner healing when it came to my father.  He teased me all the time, as did bullies at school.  There didn’t seem to be a safe place for me. So I collected big brothers who would protect me.  Sometimes if you don’t seem to have a good sense of safety in a family, you try to find one elsewhere.  Some kids find this in gangs, where they feel they belong. They feel safe, even if they aren’t safe.   Now I actually had a loving father, who cared and cares very deeply for me and my sister.  He was just insecure.  He needed love and safety just as much as I did.  And when I came to faith in Jesus Christ, I had spiritual dads who flowed from the heart of God the Father to me.  This filled the deficit that I had – since my own dad could never have loved me as deeply as that.  He still doesn’t know Jesus yet.

There are many kids who are fatherless.  I’ve seen this in Ottawa, especially among the single-parent households in the poorer areas of town.  Yet it’s even more evident in South Africa.  Teen pregnancies are common in the Western Cape townships, and likely in other areas of the Rainbow Nation.  Where are the fathers?  Some are in jail.  We’ve ministered to some of those in both Ottawa and Worcester.  Others have taken off and fathered other families.  We saw this in Mozambique.  Others have died, since they have led hard lives as labourers, or were killed off in violence.  So boys and girls grow up with their moms, who are struggling to make ends meet.  While the mom may have help from her own mother or sisters, she is continually stressed. Sometimes in desperation she spends the baby bonus on cheap wine. The kids go hungry.   Some of these kids have managed, but many of them have a sense of orphan spirit, where you can feel a sense of desperation and detachment.  They feel abandoned.  In some cases they are, but in others, their moms are trying to survive by working. 

Before covid-19 hit, we would see farm kids in one of our after school kids clubs.  Their parents work as farm labourers, and are in the fields for hours.  They don’t see their parents much, so they’ve been left to raise themselves.  We’ve found them to be some of the brashest, toughest kids we’ve ever known. They tested us at every turn, screamed, shouted and want to destroy things. Some have fetal alcohol syndrome. Yet, some will respond to steady love and discipline.  Tony and I tried to love them this way. However, since our Afrikaans isn’t strong, they needed that added commonality of a shared love language. In came their Afrikaaner leaders, Flip and Inge-Lize, who love with discipline in their language.  They were acting as parents, as family, even closer to them than Uncle Tony and Tannie Laurie-Ann.  We loved them, but they needed surrogate parents. Family draws you IN, and helps you belong.  Family usually speaks the same language.

We are created to grow in relationship.  I remember learning this deeply when I was studying counselling in Tyndale Seminary.  I remember writing about integrating different kinds of psychology and theology into counselling strategies.  When I prayed about combining different counselling methods, what came to me was a Holy Spirit insight.  Our faith isn’t just theology. It is something that is often thought through and lived out of.  It’s a foundation.  Everything needs to be based on that.  If counselling methods are to work, it needs to be thoroughly drenched in our Christian world-view – not as a fake-imposed religion, but out of genuine compassion.  God is our source of healing.  He heals the counsellee, and he heals us.    Since God is a God of relationship, as Father, so he also puts the lonely into families for healing. Psalm 68:5-6 says “Father to the fatherless, defender of widows – this is God, whose dwelling is holy.  God places the lonely in families. He sets the prisoners free and gives them joy.”   

Many of us have been hurt in dysfunctional or abusive relationships.  One of our natural responses is to run away. Others fight or freeze. I was the one who froze, or at least hid as much as I could.  But the pain would always follow.  I realized while I worked on this essay that a deep key of healing is actually received through godly relationships.  God uses them to minister to others, especially if they can see Jesus in you.  They respond to the compassion and light.   I shared this insight with two leaders who had a healing ministry in the church I then attended.  They looked at me with joy and told me I was ready to read Tom Marshall. Marshall wrote that relationships bring healing. To receive this healing, we need to connect with each other. This means your real face, rather than a mask; not a projection that is not yourself.  Real family is a safe place where you can be yourself.

To add to the confusion of the fatherless generation, there are more and more blended families.  Some of the teen girls we love and disciple are in blended families.  They don’t know their fathers, but they know their mother’s boyfriends. The relationships aren’t stable.  Other kids are jammed in with them in tiny houses.  Some kids have different fathers, with confusing family dynamics.  One pair of boys that we taught in school looked like brothers, yet the younger one was the uncle of the older boy.  The kids we taught last year were so hungry for love.  They loved the hugs and kisses I gave them, as well as the hugs and discipline Tony shared. They were unruly and had been given conflicting messages from their parents.  One of the boys said in class that he wished that he’d never been born.  Tony was shocked by this and asked him why.  The boy replied, “It’s because I’m so boring.”  This boy is anything BUT boring.  He’s a caring gentleman, loves music and is quite endearing. Does this sound like an exasperated relative told him to shut up, and that he’s boring?  Perhaps, but that sounds like a curse.  And then there is the “S” word that is banded about – “stupid.”  A bit later, the learners taunted each other with that word until I put a stop to it.  I told them not to be silly – and that NONE of them is stupid. They ALL got high marks in my art class.    This group is a dysfunctional family but we’re worked hard on fixing this by being consistent with them.  Sometimes you spend more time with classmates than you do with family members, so they are family too. Unfortunately, school can also be a place of much pain, as it was for me.  Childhood bullies are still a common problem, both in person or online. But we didn’t allow it in our school.    While Tony and I were on furlough, our school was left in the care of Helena. She is very loving South African;  both wise and strict. She doesn’t pull any punches when it comes to discipline. And while I once heard one of the boys complain to me about her, I found that some of them have grown more confident in their personalities due to her influence: especially the youngest child, Delivenance. 

I have continued to learn about family through the Iris movement.  Small groups and Bible studies had their place in my personal healing, but what I heard and my heart drank in through Iris, was transformational.  I always had a longing to belong.  I needed to know my ‘tribe.’  In Ottawa, I was part of three churches – one liturgical, one new Pentecostal, and one in the Catch the Fire stream. One fed me in communion and symbol, another in great teaching, and the third in deep worship, including prophetic drawing.  I was allowed to thrive in that gifting. I worked hard for all of the churches at different times as I was needed. Each has been supportive in their own way.  In 2014, I discovered Iris in Virginia, led by a dear Iris mentor, Brian Britton.  He offered a taste of healthy, very connected family.  Most members were loosely based, and were mostly sent out on the mission fields of South America, the US, Africa, Asia and Australia.  But this was a supportive network that encouraged you in your own destiny calling.  They believe that no one has a cookie-cutter ministry.  We are all unique. In an earlier Ways to Grow article, I have spoken of how we grow in the communion of saints. This is a deep sense of church community.  I’ve also shared about deep friendships, mentors and networking.     But this was something greater than these relationships.  This was Holy Spirit drenched connections, like deeply nourishing family.  I met people there that I call forever friends, people like Brenda and her husband Danny, who nurture deep faith and wisdom.  Then there’s Dennis and Cindy, who minister to the hidden poor in Williamsburg. And people in Richmond who are equally authentic in their faith, who treat the broken like long-lost cousins.   I know what that’s like, since I met two first cousins-once removed through Ancestry.ca recently.  One of them, Cousin Bonnie, is becoming a forever friend.

Heidi Baker always tells us that “love looks like something.”  How does that look in the West?  It looks like family with the same core values and community days, meeting together. It looks like being intentional.  You WANT to connect as family.  You love being together.  My mentor Brian says that “family is the new wineskin.  Iris is also like a family.  The church is supposed to be like that.  We need fathers and mothers – but often we quit on people.  Family does NOT and should not do that. True family sticks together. We really need consistent fathers and mothers.  We need to BE WITH people and not treat them as a project.”  We need to love unconditionally, with humility.  [Brian Britton, backporch talk on Iris in the west, June 15, 2016, Harvest School 24]    This is the environment that I was attracted towards. I found this to some extent at Harvest School, but personally, that school was a pressure cooker for me.  Where I really learned and absorbed family identity, was at the base where we are now connected.  We were being prepared as spiritual parents by seeing it modelled by Johan and Marie Fourie.

We spent 22 days at Iris Western Cape base after two months in Mozambique.  We came ‘home’ to be poured into, to rest, and to receive love.  This was incredibly freeing.  My art was unleashed as I was inspired.  Johan and Marie encouraged me to draw the beautiful landscape of the Langeberg range, foothills and bushveld.  I even drew their beloved field of flags by their winery business.  The Fouries poured into our whole team in a deeply loving, yet in a laid-back way.  I will always remember Johan telling us that “it’s all about family.” Heidi Baker had the revelation of making love practical, and being hungry for God; but the Fouries brought me deep relationship of another kind to the table.  Johan was and is a papa.

Each Iris base is different. We have experienced three bases: in Mozambique and South Africa.  We also know two affiliates: one in Virginia, and the other in East London, Eastern Cape.  The bases had a sense of family, which seemed strongest at Footprints near Jo’burg, and here at Western Cape.  Since our base is not the traditional compound base with a children’s centre, a different strategy is needed. Johan’s dream is to put missionary couples and families in a ring of towns around the base and farm.  We are to all link with other ministries and churches.  These ministries aren’t Iris, but they are still family.  And that is exactly what we’ve done.  We’re further apart geographically from the other Iriser’s than we’d like, but since we link arms with other ministries, we flourish in our own callings.  Some of us are with children, others with seniors.  It hasn’t been easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is.  We are intentionally sowing into our Iris family, as well as the family clusters we’ve joined. 

Tony and I joined with several YWAM ministries, and they’ve become family.  The teen girls who we share Saturdays and Mondays with, have become family.  Our cellgroup at church is a very tight-knit family; we’re always in touch on a Whatsapp group. We can share the need for prayer at any time.  This is the ex-pat group in our church, and is perfect for being ourselves. We don’t need to always be in ministry-mode, unless the Holy Spirit prompts us. We’ve found this group is very real; if you need them, they will come help you.  We’re so thankful for this kind of family. I had a similar experience of family when I was let go from my job in British Columbia.  I became very close to some church leaders, the women’s group, and my connect group.  They became my life-line.  It’s been the same of certain female friends – they are like sisters to me. Even my relationship with own sister has become stronger in the past few years. 

Families are actually the building block of a sturdy civilization.  Families are being attacked all the time by the enemy of our souls.  Marriages are as well. And so, this brings us to one of the core reasons why Tony and I were called to South Africa.  We are called to be mom and dad, tannie and oom to the abandoned latch-key kids of the townships.  We are like second parents, loving them, teaching them, and discipling them in the faith.  We allow them freedom to love and make mistakes; to learn and grow. Yet we have healthy boundaries and are teaching them about honour.  One of the girls, Jamelia, told me that we are her second parents. She tells me that she is very thankful for us.  Another girl, Chantelle, calls me Mommy, although she still calls Tony “Uncle” Tony.  We love them all.  As we spend time with them, they grow.  They really just need our intentional time and love.  This takes commitment, especially during covid times.  The girls had been in turn, loving younger township kids through small Bible studies.  They got to be big sisters.  That’s family.  This is how family should be.  We’re not perfect, and neither are they.  But when there’s grace and unconditional love through the Holy Spirit, we can bless each other. We can grow like plants in good soil.  I pray that this may be this way in your own lives too. 

Are you part of family like this?  If you’re not, would you like to be?  Seek God – he can draw you to the right place.  It won’t be in a gang that seeks to harm and destroy.  It will be in within family that loves you to life.

Let us pray together. Lord, thank you that you set the lonely into families. May you pick us up and out of destructive relationships and bring healing.  For the broken, I ask that you father us in a way that only you can.  Minister deeply to hearts, restore a sense of their identity in you, as your child. We ask for more spiritual moms and dads.  There are so many needed, not just the Copples and the Fouries. Not just Brian Britton and Rolland Baker.  Fill our arms with the broken prodigals and those who need family.  Prepare our hearts.  We thank you that you create the best family. May you bring your deep healing and love. And may we continue to grow in you.  In Jesus’ name, Amen.

If you’d like to hear an audio version of this article, please visit the Ways to Grow in God (WTGIG) podcast page on the coppleswesterncape.ca website (under the “Listen” drop-down menu).  Click here:  (https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/wtgig-podcasts.html) and scroll down to #59!  If you have been blessed by this article, please let us know!

Updates:  For those looking for news on my cancer journey, I am almost finished the expensive Herceptin injections, with just one to go!  I do not need tamoxifen, although will need to have my chemotherapy port flushed.  I have decided to keep the port for now. I am continuing MLD therapy, lymphedema treatments and physiotherapy to get me stronger for our eventual return to Canada.  We are applying for medical visas, which would allow us to stay six months longer in South Africa.  The medical treatment here is excellent, although expensive, despite the rand-Canadian dollar exchange has helped keep costs almost 20 percent lower.  We have incurred significant medical debt, although kind people in Canada and around the world have helped us so far.  God bless each and every one of them.  But we still need help. Please click here for the medical campaign page to get more info: https://www.coppleswesterncape.ca/medical-campaign.html.

 We are still crowdfunding to cover the cancer treatments (and Tony’s TB treatments). If you feel led to contribute, please do so via our PayPal:  https://www.paypal.me/WaystogrowinGod

L-A’s colouring book:  If you are in South Africa, and would like to purchase one of L-A’s colouring books, they are available at OliveTree Bookshop in Mountain Mill Shopping Centre (near Pick n Pay), Worcester, Western Cape.  You can also buy them at LeRoux and Fourie Wineshop on R60 beside Cape Lime (between Nuy and Robertson).  Or you can order one (or more) printed for you through Takealot.com through this link:  https://www.takealot.com/colouring-with-jesus/PLID68586424

Bless you and thank you for your support!

Laurie-Ann